31/07/2014
Some feedback on the article below from one of our readers.
Dear Ms. P-J:
Re your latest article in the Standard, on DPD, allow me to say how much I appreciated it and learned from it. Actually, there have been very few if any of your essays in the local press, since the first that I saw, which I have not read with great interest and some benefit. (That first was on the ugly subject of r**e, to which I added a few published observations of my own a week later; far from taking umbrage you actually called me on my cellphone in Serowe and we exchanged pleasantries.)
The fact is, my family in Botswana has a sufferer from Dependent Personality Disorder - though having no psychiatric training, I did not know that it had a recognised name, and that evidently cases are not extremely rare. Some small comfort in that, without doubt. Actually, our "case", afflicting a man in his mid-40s, is not too dramatic or disruptive - thanks to the patient elder sister with whom he lives and for whom he works to a certain level. They are both single, though with children; the man had a
partner and two daughters before he was affected at around age 25. He's had a session or two down at Sbrana Clinic - I know no details - though not so many as his late mother who was sadly schizophrenic. A link? I couldn't say. Anyway, things could be much worse, and without regular medication in this case, they probably would be. Disregarding his affliction, our man is a most pleasant fellow - and even retains a real and infectious sense of humour. It's a funny old business, the human condition...
On a very different matter, I have been following your "take" on the O.Pistorius trial, and would imagine that your reading of his character would not vary much from mine. From an early stage I got the impression of a very unpleasant man : totally self-centred and self-pitying, arrogant and aggressive, unconnected with others'
feelings, and lethally violent. I don't think that his truly remarkable background, and personal triumphs, are any justification for what he did, and though I would not commend him for capital punishment (if there were any in SA), I would certainly take him out of circulation for 20 years. How soft on Odious Oscar will the presiding judge prove to be?
Anyway, thanks again for a fine series of articles. Among the plethora of political, litigational, promotional and general dross in our wonderfully free press, your items set a high standard of interest and literacy. If you ever have occasion to take a
break at our ###XX - or indeed at the local ###### Bar - give us a bell and I'll be happy to stand you a half.
Kind regards:
Ralph ###XX.