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09/04/2026

Friday Energy 🔥

Maybe it’s your spouse, your family, or your friends questioning whether you can make it on your own.

Maybe you’re tired of hearing what you can’t do.

What you believe about yourself changes everything.

I see you. I hear you. And I believe in you.

You’ve got this! 💜🔥

09/03/2026

What have you been told—or worried about—when it comes to divorce?
Reese Witherspoon followed her mother’s advice: Protect yourself in case your spouse does not do what they promised.
That is good advice. But money is not the only thing you need to think about.
After years of handling divorces, here are five things I want you to remember:
1 Your spouse will probably want the same things you want—the house, the money, and time with the kids.
Why? Because you built that life together. You may both want to keep the same parts of it.
2 They may use what they know about you—your fears, mistakes, and weak spots—to get what they want.
Why? Divorce can make people act in ways you never expected.
3 Their idea of “fair” may be very different from yours.
Why? You may not agree about what each person did, gave up, or deserves.
4 Pay attention to how they act when other people upset them.
Why? People have patterns. The way they treat others during conflict may be the way they treat you—maybe even worse.
5 They may believe they are being reasonable and you are the unreasonable one.
Why? It is hard to admit you are wrong when you feel hurt or angry.
You cannot control how your spouse acts.
But you can get clear about what you have, get strategic about what you want, and take the right steps before the conflict begins.
Prepare now so you can leave on your terms—and Leave With More™.

09/03/2026

What have you been told—or worried about—when it comes to divorce?

Reese Witherspoon followed her mother’s advice: Protect yourself in case your spouse does not do what they promised.

That is good advice. But money is not the only thing you need to think about.

After years of handling divorces, here are five things I want you to remember:

1. Your spouse will probably want the same things you want—the house, the money, and time with the kids.

Why? Because you built that life together. You may both want to keep the same parts of it.

2. They may use what they know about you—your fears, mistakes, and weak spots—to get what they want.

Why? Divorce can make people act in ways you never expected.

3. Their idea of “fair” may be very different from yours.

Why? You may not agree about what each person did, gave up, or deserves.

4. Pay attention to how they act when other people upset them.

Why? People have patterns. The way they treat others during conflict may be the way they treat you—maybe even worse.

5. They may believe they are being reasonable and you are the unreasonable one.

Why? It is hard to admit you are wrong when you feel hurt or angry.

You cannot control how your spouse acts.

But you can get clear about what you have, get strategic about what you want, and take the right steps before the conflict begins.

Prepare now so you can leave on your terms—and Leave With More™.

Do you know what one of the silent killers of marriage is?Mental health struggles that are ignored or left untreated.It ...
09/02/2026

Do you know what one of the silent killers of marriage is?

Mental health struggles that are ignored or left untreated.

It is still so taboo to talk about.

People are struggling behind closed doors with:

• Depression
• Anxiety
• Addiction
• Personality disorders
• Other serious mental health concerns

Sometimes, you can see that something is wrong—but your spouse refuses to see it.

So you keep trying to make the marriage work.

You may:

• Change how you speak to avoid upsetting them
• Stop bringing up certain problems
• Give in to keep the peace
• Cover for them with family and friends
• Protect the children from their behavior
• Keep hoping that your love will help them change

But that is not how mental health works.

You cannot do the work for another person—no matter how much you love them or want to save your marriage.

And people outside your home may have no idea what is happening.

Your spouse may be:

• Successful at work
• Running a business
• Coaching a team
• Volunteering at school
• Active in the community

But behind closed doors, your family may be struggling.

Having a mental health condition does not make someone a bad spouse or parent. Many people recognize that they need help, get treatment, and manage their condition successfully.

The bigger problem is when your spouse:

• Refuses to get help
• Denies that anything is wrong
• Blames everyone else
• Repeats the same harmful behavior
• Expects the family to keep adjusting around them

If you are unsure whether to stay or leave, ask yourself:

• How is this affecting me?
• How is it affecting our children?
• Is my spouse willing to get help?
• Am I seeing lasting change—or another apology followed by the same behavior?
• What will happen if nothing changes?

You do not have to diagnose your spouse.

You do not have to convince everyone else that something is wrong.

And you do not have to lose yourself trying to save someone who will not take responsibility for getting help.

You can have compassion for what your spouse is going through—and still protect your peace, your children, and your future.

Have you ever kept trying to make something work—but it just wouldn’t?A job?A friendship?A relationship?A marriage?I’ve ...
09/01/2026

Have you ever kept trying to make something work—but it just wouldn’t?

A job?
A friendship?
A relationship?
A marriage?

I’ve worked with good people before, but sometimes we had different philosophies, work styles, personalities, or expectations.

Whether the differences were small or big, the result felt the same:

It just wasn’t working.

That doesn’t always mean someone is a bad person. It doesn’t mean you didn’t try hard enough.

Sometimes, two people simply don’t work well together.

The same can be true in a marriage.

You can keep talking, adjusting, giving, and hoping things will change. But at some point, you may have to stop asking:

"How do I make this work?”

And start asking:

“What do I need to do if it isn’t working?”

Realizing something isn’t working doesn’t make you a failure.

Sometimes, it gives you the clarity you need to move forward.

08/29/2026

Be honest: How many women do you know who have done this? 😂

You think your husband is hiding something.

He gets in the shower.

Now you’re about to find out.

Wait…how many credit cards does this man have?! 💳

08/29/2026

What would you do if you stopped letting fear decide what happens next?

I love these messages from Viola Davis.

Her words are such a powerful reminder that we don’t have to let fear—or other people—define who we are or what our future can look like.

And I think about this a lot with women who feel stuck in a marriage that isn’t working.

Fear of losing your money.

Fear of losing time with your kids.

Fear of starting over.

Fear that you can’t afford to leave.

Fear that you’ll make the wrong decision.

Fear doesn’t have to make the decision for you.

Get clear. about where you are.

Get strategic about where you want to go.

Then take action when you’re ready.

You get to decide what comes next.

Thank you, Viola Davis, for the reminders. 💜

Leave on your terms. Leave With More™.

08/28/2026

Is there a wrong way to tell your spouse you want a divorce?

Absolutely! If you wonder how high-conflict divorce starts, this video is it.

I cringed as I watched Nikki and Shawn go back and forth on Married at First Sight, each talking about each others emotional intelligence (a jab between two high-achieving spouses who care about intelligence).

Using your divorce announcement as an opportunity to tell your spouse everything they have ever done wrong can create expensive problems later (this went on for 8 minutes or so).

It may feel good to finally say everything you have been thinking.

But the hurt does not end when the conversation ends.

It can bleed into:

* Settlement negotiations
* Dividing property and debt
* Parenting decisions
* Child or spousal support
* Whether your spouse will move out
* Whether your spouse will cooperate at all

Then your case takes longer. You spend thousands more on attorneys. And every decision becomes another fight.

You need a plan for how you are going to leave. (and maybe those therapists on the show should have proofed those letters).

Before you have the conversation:

Get Clear. Know what you have, what you want, and what is at risk.

Get Strategic. Decide what to say, when to say it, and what needs to happen first.

Take Action. Make the right moves in the right order at the right time.

The goal is not to win the divorce announcement.

The goal is to protect what happens next.

Get confident about your future—because you have a plan to Leave With More™.

*If you are afraid your spouse may become violent or retaliate, create a safety plan before having this conversation.*

“He’ll never agree to that.”My client was sure.I wasn’t so sure.She wanted something pretty simple: more consistency aro...
08/27/2026

“He’ll never agree to that.”
My client was sure.
I wasn’t so sure.

She wanted something pretty simple: more consistency around their child.

She had tried being flexible.
Very flexible.
But flexibility had turned into chaos.

Dad would cancel visits to reschedule them—and sometimes still wouldn't show up. Phone calls with their child might be before school one day, 4 p.m. another day, and before bed another.

My client wanted consistency.

Dad thought he was doing everything right.

And whenever she tried to create more structure, the accusations started.

She was keeping their child from him.
She wasn't being flexible.
She was the problem.

The texts had become a telenovela.

So instead of continuing the argument, we got strategic.

First, we got clear on what she wanted.
More consistency. More boundaries. Less conflict.

Then we got clear on what he wanted.
Because that's the part people sometimes miss when they're negotiating with a difficult person.

You need to know what the other person wants, too.

We mapped out the details: pickup times, exchange locations, phone calls, schedules.

Then we presented the proposal differently.

Instead of telling him everything he was doing wrong and asking him to agree to everything she wanted, we highlighted what he was already doing right.

We showed him how the proposed structure helped him.

And we kept the focus on how it benefited their child.

He agreed.

Not because we proved him wrong.

Because we stopped trying to prove him wrong and started thinking strategically about what would get him to yes.

My client walked away with:

More boundaries.
More predictability.
More peace.

That's what I mean by Leave With More.

Get clear. Get strategic. Take action.

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