05/26/2026
"My spouse is a narcissist. Can the collaborative process possibly work for us?"
It's the question I hear most often from people in high-conflict marriages.
The honest answer isn't yes or no — it's depends. And it depends less on a diagnosis of your spouse than on a few practical questions:
→ Can both of you show up? → Can both of you share financial information? → Can both of you use your voice in the room?
You don't have to like each other. You don't have to trust each other. You do have to be able to speak for yourself — or be supported to do so.
If you're trying to figure out whether collaborative could fit your situation, I wrote a full walkthrough.
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