07/19/2024
Every once in a while I reshare this story.
To be prepared, and to listen.
I think those are the most important tasks of a lawyer in a family law practice like mine. People often make an appointment to get information and feel out their options with someone who knows how the law would apply to their issue and circumstance. So it's important to really listen to them.
A few years ago, a man came to see me to start divorce proceedings. He had a lot of good questions, and I tried to answer each of them thoroughly. At the end of the hour, I said, "So, now that you know what to expect from a legal standpoint, why don't you come back and see me again in a month or so, if you still want me to file this?"
He looked up from the check he was writing, surprised. "Are you - booked until then?" he said. "Or - you don't want the case?'
I assured him I had enough time and that I’d be glad to take it, but that I wasn't sure he really wanted to get a divorce. We sat there a moment in awkward silence. Then he put his checkbook away and stood up slowly. "Thank you for catching that," he said. "I think you are right."