05/29/2026
“I have never seen a calf follow a bull around the pasture.”
A judge said those words years ago at the end of a long custody hearing, and I have never forgotten them.
Video credit to Nic, who shared this beautiful video of his handsome South Poll bull walking through the pasture with all the little bull calves following close behind him — like they want to be just like dad.
I hate fighting over children it can really take a toll on my heart.
One of the last cases that really stayed with me involved a good father fighting to be part of his child’s life.
The child’s mother had struggled with addiction and instability, and she had even told him the child was not his.
But he showed up.
He fought.
He wanted to be the father that child needed.
Make up for the time he lost.
In my opinion, he deserved to be the primary parent.
Instead, after the judge gave a long speech about the importance of young children staying primarily with their mother, that dad was given every other weekend visitation.
Just another “weekend daddy.”
Then the judge ended with that line:
“I have never seen a calf follow a bull around the pasture.”
I wish I could tag that judge in this video.
Because here they are all following the bull.
Children need strong, loving, steady men in their lives.
Fathers matter.
Grandfathers matter.
Uncles, coaches, mentors, and good male role models matter.
This is not about taking anything away from good mothers.
Good mothers are priceless.
But good fathers are not optional.
They are not secondary.
They are not just visitors in their children’s lives.
Sometimes the pasture teaches a lesson the courtroom missed.
Share this with a Judge that needs to see it.