Marcy Rothenberg-Romer, Family Law/Divorce Attorney

02/17/2025

Counter-Parenting: When the unhealthy parent has so much hatred for the other parent that their judgement center is compromised, and their actions are driven by revenge and anger.

This person is unable to act in the best interest of their child and is unable to move forward in a healthy direction.

They use every opportunity to berate, chastise or make digs at the healthy parent.

They undermine the healthy parent by disrupting the child's sleep schedule, diet and routines.

They contradict established rules and withhold information.

Ignoring school responsibilities, projects and homework to create chaos for the healthy parent.

It's also using the parenting time schedule as a weapon and forcing custody schedules that are not in the best interest of the child.

The abuser is so focused on hurting and controlling the other parent that their actions directly affect the children.

02/13/2025

Rumors of my retirement as a Family Law Practioner are greatly exagerated! I am currently providing Unbundled Legal Services a/k/a “customized client services” or “limited scope representation , in addition to traditional legal services as I have in the past.

“Unbundled Legal Services” a/k/a “customized client services” or “limited scope representation” are when an attorney and a client agree that the attorney will perform some, but not all, aspects of the client’s legal matter. The client is responsible for handling any and all aspects of his or her own case for which the attorney has not been retained. This allows the client to choose the level and scope of representation he or she desires and provides predictable control over the cost of various legal services.
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I am also continuing my regular practice. My areas of practice continue to be :

I have extensive experience in dealing with cases involving parties who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder as well as other mental and addiction issues.

Divorce and Legal Separation
Ending your marriage can involve many legal conflicts, and we will do everything we can to ease you through the process.

Child Custody (Parental Decision-making) & Visitation (Parenting Time)
We are dedicated to helping Colorado families arrive at creative child custody and visitation plans. We will give you our undivided attention and take the necessary time to listen to your situation and provide solutions that are right for you.

Child Support & Spousal Maintenance (Alimony)
We have protected our clients' interests in child support and spousal maintenance (alimony) matters since 1981.

Marital Agreements/Civil Union (Prenuptial and Postnuptial)
We have over 42 years of experience in advising clients about a marital agreement in order to assist them in planning for the end of the marriage by divorce or death, knowing that they may be more interested in planning celebrations and focusing on dreams of living happily ever after. This now includes Civil Unions which have recently become legal in Colorado.

Post Decree Matters
We assist our clients in enforcement and modification of prior orders such as child support modification, contempt for failure to comply with existing court orders, ect.

Grandparent Rights

Paternity

Allocation of Parental Responsibility for non-married individuals.

I will be certain to let you all know when the retirement rumor is true!

11/13/2023

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As of December 1, 2023, I will be providing Unbundled Legal Services a/k/a “customized client services” or “limited scope representation , in addition to traditional legal services as I have in the past.

“Unbundled Legal Services” a/k/a “customized client services” or “limited scope representation” are when an attorney and a client agree that the attorney will perform some, but not all, aspects of the client’s legal matter. The client is responsible for handling any and all aspects of his or her own case for which the attorney has not been retained. This allows the client to choose the level and scope of representation he or she desires and provides predictable control over the cost of various legal services.
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My areas of practice continue to be :

I have extensive experience in dealing with cases involving parties who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder as well as other mental and addiction issues.


Divorce and Legal Separation
Ending your marriage can involve many legal conflicts, and we will do everything we can to ease you through the process.



Child Custody (Parental Decision-making) & Visitation (Parenting Time)
We are dedicated to helping Colorado families arrive at creative child custody and visitation plans. We will give you our undivided attention and take the necessary time to listen to your situation and provide solutions that are right for you.



Child Support & Spousal Maintenance (Alimony)
We have protected our clients' interests in child support and spousal maintenance (alimony) matters since 1981.



Marital Agreements/Civil Union (Prenuptial and Postnuptial)
We have over 42 years of experience in advising clients about a marital agreement in order to assist them in planning for the end of the marriage by divorce or death, knowing that they may be more interested in planning celebrations and focusing on dreams of living happily ever after. This now includes Civil Unions which have recently become legal in Colorado.



Post Decree Matters
We assist our clients in enforcement and modification of prior orders such as child support modification, contempt for failure to comply with existing court orders, ect.



Grandparent Rights



Paternity



Allocation of Parental Responsibility for non-married individuals.

05/06/2022

Marcy Rothenberg-Romer has handled numerous cases over the last 40 + years involving both high conflict situations, situations involving amicable resolution and everything in between. These include dissolution of marriage, legal separation, contested and non-contested custody matters, parental responsibility matters, child support matters, dependency and neglect matters, high conflict matters adoption, same s*x marriage/divorce, pre and post nuptial agreements, ect. Marcy has expertise in the area of Narcissitc Personal Disorder as well as addiction issues and other mental health issues. She is very dedicated to representing each and every client zealously and making sure that the process creates the least amount of stress as possible on her clients as well as any minor children involved given the difficult circumstances. Marcy treats each case individually as no two cases are alike and makes certain that all the many deadlines are met. She is assisted by her paralegal Paula King, who is highly qualified, has great attention to detail and is always there for our clients to assist them with the process as well. Marcy is passionate about making sure each and every client is treated in a respectful manner given the difficulty of their circumstances.

Admitted to the Bar
Colorado , October 1981

Education:

University of Colorado at Boulder, B.A.- 1978
University of San Franciso College of Law, J.D.-1981

Professional Associations and Honors :
Honors:

Top Law Practices
The Legal Network- Top Lawyers in Colorado- 2016 and 2017
Lawyers of Distinction

Martindale Hubbell- DISTINGUISHED Peer Rated Review for High Professional Achievement 2017

Denver Bar Association
Colorado Bar Association
Denver Bar Association Board of Trustees
Denver Bar Association-Chair Young Lawyers Division
Outstanding Young Lawer-Denver Bar Association
American Bar Association-Award of Achievement-Stout Street Legal/Medical Clinic for the Homeless
Ordained Minister-Perform Marriage Ceremonies for all faiths
Denver's Top 200 Power House Attorneys- Denver Magazine

04/21/2022

This is a continuing theme in so many of my cases. When will these parents realize that the revenge they think they are inflicting on the other parent, is actually resulting in irreparable damage to their children.

Counter-Parenting: When the unhealthy parent has so much hatred for the other parent that their judgement center is compromised, and their actions are driven by revenge and anger.

This person is unable to act in the best interest of their child and is unable to move forward in a healthy direction.

They use every opportunity to berate, chastise or make digs at the healthy parent.

They undermine the healthy parent by disrupting the child's sleep schedule, diet and routines.

They contradict established rules and withhold information.

Ignoring school responsibilities, projects and homework to create chaos for the healthy parent.

It's also using the parenting time schedule as a weapon and forcing custody schedules that are not in the best interest of the child.

The abuser is so focused on hurting and controlling the other parent that their actions directly affect the children.

11/11/2020

As we approach Thanksgiving, I wanted to repost this . Hopefully, it helps you to get through the upcoming Thanksgiving season. Unfortunately, this year will be even harder for all of us since we aren't able to share big gatherings with those who support us.

Navigating your first Thanksgiving after divorce will require some extra effort, but that extra effort will be worth your time and energy.

03/17/2020

Good Morning-

I hope that you are all able to deal with this very surreal situation . I know how hard this is for all of us.

My office will remain open if you need my services in the next several weeks. We , including the courts, are trying to do as much work as possible remotely to reduce the risk to everyone. I am happy to conduct phone consultations, skype or Facetime meetings . All of our filings are already done via efile, so there will be no interruption in that process.

The courts have made it clear that if there is an emergency situation-- the need for a temporary protection order or motion to restrict parenting time as an example, that they will remain open to address those issues in person.

For now, I am trying to maintain business as usual as much as possible . Please let me know if you have any questions.

Hang in there everyone- this too shall pass.

02/24/2020

Unfortunately, this is way too prevalent in so many of the matters I deal with. I always try to get my clients to focus on “ THE BEST INTERESTS OF THEIR KIDS”, not their disdain for the other parent. So very important for the children that did not choose for their parents to split up.

Counter-Parenting: When the unhealthy parent has so much hatred for the other parent that their judgement center is compromised, and their actions are driven by revenge and anger.

This person is unable to act in the best interest of their child and is unable to move forward in a healthy direction.

They use every opportunity to berate, chastise or make digs at the healthy parent.

They undermine the healthy parent by disrupting the child's sleep schedule, diet and routines.

They contradict established rules and withhold information.

Ignoring school responsibilities, projects and homework to create chaos for the healthy parent.

It's also using the parenting time schedule as a weapon and forcing custody schedules that are not in the best interest of the child.

The abuser is so focused on hurting and controlling the other parent that their actions directly affect the children.

01/15/2020

Just wanted to update everyone on my recent office move. I am still at 3600 S. Yosemite st.,Denver, but we have moverd upstairs to Suite 650. Everything else remains the same. Hoping to be of service to you in 2020.