04/16/2024
A CATCHY VIBE - PRESENCE - can take a messy situation and turn it around. How are you using this simple state of mind in your life. Here are my rules to stay present.
1. Shut up and listen. People want you to make them feel a certain way, you do that by letting them have the spotlight. When they feel good about themselves, they attribute the feeling they are generating to YOU.
3. Don't need anything from anyone, this includes validation. When you need something, it's palpable and a total turn-off.
3. Don't take a gosh darn thing personally, ever. Once you make it personal, you are not present, you are telling a story in your head.
Being extremely present is how I settled a contentious case yesterday. Yes, it was my legal arguments, it was my preparation, it was my handy dandy spreadsheets, but most of all, it was being present and open. I was present with my client, with opposing counsel, with the opposing party, and with the magistrate. The vibe was catchy.