A Healthy Divorce

08/28/2025

Check out my episode on The Personal Side of Business with Jet Bunditwong.
Divorce Without Destruction: How Mediation Heals Families:
https://youtu.be/5xf2jGpIqC0?si=xm4xZ9kA6oNWiGf-

07/02/2025

Do you need an Attorney to get Divorced?

07/02/2025

Thank you Vicente Enriquez for coming down to the office and filming answers to some very common questions, "How long does it take to get Divorced?" check out our video below to find out.

06/03/2025

Laurie Itkin who is a certified divorce financial analyst (CDFA) and I discussing my new book "Untangling Together." available now: https://www.amazon.com/Untangling-Together-Healthy-Workbook-California/dp/B0DKSMXQF2?ref_=ast_author_dp@

San Diego mediator Barney Connaughton, Esq. discusses his new book, "Untangling Together," and his affordable, efficient, and effective mediation practice wi...

11/10/2024

Happy World Kindness Week to you all! November 9th through the 16th is Worldwide Kindness Week with World Kindness Day falling on November 13th. It is a global observance dedicated to promoting and celebrating acts of kindness. It is intended as a reminder of the positive impact that kindness can have on us all, our communities, and the world at large. It focuses on encouraging people to perform intentional acts of kindness and foster a culture of compassion and generosity. With our Country just coming out of another highly contentious election season, the timing couldn’t be better. In this week’s blog we revisit the function of kindness when we are working our way through conflict, some easy ways to share and spread kindness, and with this being a divorce blog, I will try to find some way to tie it all into divorce.

Happy World Kindness Week to you all! November 9th through the 16th is Worldwide Kindness Week with World Kindness Day falling on November 13th. It is a

10/19/2024

I had a consultation this week with a spouse who was beginning to gather information for possibly proceeding with a divorce. I gave her information about mediation to share with the absent spouse in the event she could persuade him to consider the mediation option. During our meeting she expressed interest in getting some legal advice to help her with making the decision whether to mediate or lawyer up. I let her know that I could not advise her as I am not able to mediate once I provide advice to either spouse. I did let her know that through the mediation process I would educate both her and her spouse on the intricate details of the law applicable to their situation. She wondered aloud which avenue would accomplish the best result for her and expressed that it seemed like it would be best to have her own advocate, and thus hire her own attorney. In this week’s blog I tackle the notion of trying to get the most for ourselves, the danger of selling ourselves short, and what I call the Goldilocks range of getting things accomplished somewhere in the space of “just right”.
https://ahealthydivorce.com/shooting-too-high-too-low-and-divorce/

10/11/2024

I recently completed a mediation with a couple whom I had originally met with for a consultation over a year ago. At that time they ended up choosing a different path and had each hired their own attorney to handle the divorce. After a year of litigation they both became frustrated with the slow pace and the contentiousness of it all and agreed to let their attorneys go and see if they could sort it out through mediation. By resetting, and taking a new approach to the issues, the couple was pretty quickly able to reach agreement and get things completed so they could start moving on. In this week’s blog we explore the notion of taking a step back, looking at our options, and sometimes charting a new path to better accomplish whatever task lies ahead.

I recently completed a mediation with a couple whom I had originally met with for a consultation over a year ago. At that time they ended up choosing a

09/26/2024

Barney will be speaking at San Diego Mesa College's Law and Writing panel on Tuesday October 15th.

07/22/2024

The Case for Kindness in Divorce.

Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate. When people think of divorce they don’t typically think of two people coming together

07/20/2024

Nurturing Relationships: Divorce Mediation and Preservation Strategies

Experience divorce mediation that prioritizes relationship preservation. Our skilled mediators guide you through respectful and constructive negotiations, fostering understanding and harmony during challenging times.

07/17/2024

Why Must we Disclose in Divorce? There are a variety of reasons why the State requires disclosure and despite the pain, the exchanging of this information is a very valuable and important part of the divorce process. In this previous blog we look at some of the very important functions of disclosure.

Perhaps one of the most challenging and time consuming tasks required in a California divorce is disclosure. Before a Judge will grant a divorce or legal

07/15/2024

Pets, Divorce and a Cat Named Terrapin - A Healthy Divorce

Several years ago there was a well known San Diego Divorce case that involved the divorcing couple fighting over ownership of their dog. The Judge had