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07/08/2023

The Roadmap to Your Mediated Divorce with Leave Strong Divorce Services

Let me share with you what the Divorce Mediation Process looks like when you are working with laura McGee, founder of Leave Strong Divorce Services:

contemplating a divorce or seeking a skilled divorce mediator? Wondering what the divorce mediation process entails? Look no further. Welcome to [the Leave S...

07/08/2023

How every child can thrive by five

Take it from this brainiac! You do not get a do-over when it comes to parenting:

"What if I was to tell you that a game of peek-a-boo could change the world?" asks seven-year-old Molly Wright, one of the youngest-ever TED speakers. Breaking down the research-backed ways parents and caregivers can support children's healthy brain development, Wright highlights the benefits of pla...

05/27/2023

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When Tina Turner left her first husband - who was also her boss, captor, and brutal tormentor - she snuck out of their Dallas hotel room with a single thought in her mind: "The way out is through the door."

From there she fled across the midnight freeway, semi-trucks careening past her, with 36 cents and a Mobil gas card in her pocket. As soon as she decided to walk out that door, she owned nothing else.

When she filed for divorce, she made an unusual request. She didn't want anything: not the song rights, not the cars, not the houses, not the money. All she wanted was the stage name he gave her - Tina - and her married name - Turner. This was the name by which the world had come to know her, and keeping it was her only chance to salvage her career.

Things could have gone a lot of ways from there. She could have labored in obscurity for decades, maybe making records on small labels to be prized by vinyl connoisseurs in Portland. She could have stayed in Vegas, where she first went to get her chops back up, and worked as a nostalgia act. And, of course, given what she had been through, she might have ... not made it.

What happened instead is that Tina Turner became the biggest global rock star of the 80s. I'm old enough to barely remember this, but if you aren't, it was like this: The Rolling Stones would headline a stadium one day, and the next day it would be Tina Turner. A middle-aged Black woman - she became a rock star at 42! - sitting atop the 1980s like it was her throne.

She managed this because of whatever rare stuff she was made of (this is a woman whose label gave her two weeks to record her solo breakthrough, Private Dancer, which went five times platinum); because she decided to speak publicly about her abusive marriage and forge her own identity, and in doing so give hope and courage to countless women; and also because - in a perhaps unlikely twist for a girl from Nutbush, Tennessee - she had her practice of Soka Gakkai Nichiren Buddhism, to which she credited her survival. She remained devout until the end.

Tina's second marriage - to her, her only marriage - was to Erwin Bach, a German music executive 16 years her junior. Of him, she said, "Erwin, who is a force of nature in his own right, has never been the least bit intimidated by my career, my talents, or my fame."

In 2016, after a barrage of health problems, Tina's kidneys began to fail. A Swiss citizen by then, she had started preparing for assisted su***de when her husband stepped in. According to Tina, he said, "He didn't want another woman, or another life."

He gave her one of his kidneys, buying her the remainder of her time on this earth and perhaps closing a cycle which took her from a man who inflicted injury upon her to a man willing to inflict injury upon himself to save her from harm.

Born into a share-cropping family as Anna Mae Bullock in 1939, she died Tina Turner in a palatial Swiss estate: the queen of rock 'n roll; a storm of a performer with a wildcat-fierce voice; a dancer of visceral, spine-tingling potency and ability; a beauty for the ages; a survivor of terrible abuse and an advocate for others in similar situations; an author and actress; a devout Buddhist; a wife and mother; a human being of rare talent and perseverance who, through her transcendent brilliance, became a legend.

Incredible Eulogy by Will Stenberg

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05/25/2023

🔊 Listen Now: Finding love and happiness within every kind of family

Listen to: Finding love and happiness within every kind of family -

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05/23/2023

Moore Marsden with Refi and Title Change

Wondering how the home is separated if you owned it before you married, did a refi, and then added your spouse to the title?

In this video, Kathryn Kirkland and Jim Schaefer illustrate the division of equity in the marital residence at time of resolution.

05/03/2023

Elder Family Mediation– The Other “Family” Mediation

Part of being an excellent mediator is sharing your knowledge and skills and continuously seeking out new opportunities to grow and improve your practice. I have participated as a planner, speaker, and/or sponsor each of the last 6 years of the Family Mediation Institute's annual seminars. I am proud to be a panelist again this year.

Now in its 6th year, our Family Mediation Institute (FMI) continues to provide family conflict resolution professionals an opportunity to connect with their colleagues from all over California, the United States and beyond. As the premier event for family mediators and other divorce professionals, t...

04/26/2023

My Next Move

Are you needed to rehabilitate your career? Have you checked out My Next Move?

04/19/2023

Register for our Carlsbad Hub's confidential webinar

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Join us for a CONFIDENTIAL webinar designed to answer questions related to asset division, retirement, and the QDRO process in divorce.

04/12/2023

When Someone You Love Is Upset, Ask This One Question

When Someone You Love Is Upset, Ask This One Question

Offering support can be tricky, but experts say this technique helps.

03/16/2023

Carlsbad Hub: Top 10 Divorce Mistakes

You can watch this seminar: "The Top 10 Divorce Mistakes and How to Avoid Them" recorded by the Carlsbad Hub of Vestadivorce,.com

Thank you for the gift of your time. Reach out to me if you want to learn more.

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03/11/2023

Don’t Want to Fully Merge Finances? Consider a Money Partnership - NerdWallet

Marriage is a financial partnership, but what are your options if you're not open to a full-on merger?

Not ready to merge your finances? Tax time can be a good opportunity for couples to strengthen their relationship — and their relationship to money.

03/10/2023

Judge orders arrest warrant for B.C. doctor with history of spousal abuse who fled country | CBC News

Even extremely well educated spouses can be abusers and most of those in their community are unaware. Offer your support by directing them to the right support.

A B.C. judge has ordered a Canada-wide warrant for the arrest of a doctor with a history of domestic violence who fled the country in the face of a growing bill for unpaid spousal and child support.

03/09/2023

Dear Therapist: My Daughter’s ‘Brother’ Is Actually Her Father

Sometimes, it is complicated. Know when to get the right help.

02/18/2023

When Kids Have to Act Like Parents, It Affects Them for Life

How you co-parent will have a lasting legacy. You only get to do this once. Have the courage to seek well informed and supportive help.

02/16/2023

Jobs with the highest divorce rates - KESQ

What are the stats saying?

Is your job the key to staying married? Stacker examined U.S. Census Bureau data to identify the jobs with higher—and lower—rates of divorce.

02/07/2023

This is a complimentary seminar via Zoom. To attend confidentially, all you have to do is sign up, and you will receive a Zoom link.

Join our Vesta Carlsbad, CA Hub of experts in divorce law and finance who will address this critical topic. The question of who pays spousal support and child support in a divorce, how much the payments will be, and for how long can be a complex issue. We designed this event to address divorce law and finances.

Topics covered:

✅ How to calculate expected spousal support and child support payments?
✅ What are the ramifications if you fail to make your support payments?
✅ What payments should you expect to receive or pay? How does it factor into managing your cash flow?
✅ How will your obligation to pay or the ability to receive spousal and child support affect your ability to own (or rent) a place to live?
✅ What are the considerations regarding spousal support?
✅ Things to consider when creating a parenting plan

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02/01/2023

Household Electrification Savings Calculator

You may qualify for a range of rebates:

How much money could I save with the Inflation Reduction Act?

02/01/2023

How to Tell Your Kids You’re Getting a Divorce with Christina McGhee

Trying to decide when and how to tell your children you are divorcing? Listen to this interview with one of my mentors: Christina McGhee:

So, you and your spouse have decided to divorce. You’re now faced with the responsibility of telling your kids. Unfortunately, there is no script for breakin...

12/29/2022

5 Myths About Divorce Mediation

As a professional who devotes her career to divorce mediation in San Diego County, I have to admit, I am biased. I believe that anyone can mediate their divorce; they just need to agree to try, and they need the right mediator.
Read more at https://www.leavestrong.com/post/2016/07/08/the-5-biggest-myths-about-who-can-mediate-their-divorce

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Learn the 5 biggest myths about who can mediate a divorce from expert divorce mediator & coach Laura McGee J.D. of Leave Strong Divorce Services.

12/26/2022

A Smarter Way to Divide Chores?

Was the demise forecast?

12/22/2022

Consulting Attorney in a Mediation

Divorce can be one of the most frightening times in a person's life because the losses many people suffer can affect them for a lifetime. While grieving or enraged, conflicted or determined, you are most certainly under emotional stress.
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How can a consulting attorney help you in a divorce mediation? Experienced mediator Laura McGee J.D. of Leave Strong offers tips for San Diegans.

12/15/2022

How Much Does Divorce Really Cost?

There is a bumper sticker I've seen which claims to answer this question in a clever but sad way: “Marriage is Grand, Divorce is 100 Grand.” Though this might provoke a laugh from the driver behind you, it's almost nearly as likely to raise the question, "Wait, is that really what it costs?".
Read more at https://www.leavestrong.com/post/2016/07/10/how-much-does-divorce-really-cost

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How much does divorce really cost in San Diego County? Experienced divorce mediator Laura McGee J.D. of Leave Strong offers an in-depth answer.

12/10/2022

DBT Skills Group for Women - inpsychcenter.com

Online group therapy for women working to regulate their emotions, manage anxiety and connect with other women.

A virtual DBT Skills Group for women experiencing anxiety, depression, and relationship issues. Live video sessions facilitated by a licensed therapist.

12/08/2022

Divorce Concerns of Baby Boomers

Baby Boomers may not have set out to create another statistic, but they are going to have to add divorce to their list of the many ways they have changed North American culture.
Read more at https://www.leavestrong.com/post/2016/07/17/the-unique-concerns-of-baby-boomers-as-they-divorce

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Divorce among couples over 55 is on the rise. Learn about the unique concerns of Baby Boomers as they divorce from Laura McGee of Leave Strong.

12/04/2022

Most parents have any official training and parenting. Sometimes one of the benefits of divorce is the attention it rings to the importance of upping your parenting skills, compassion for differences and learning to focus on a child centric family plan for the enduring benefit of your children.

📌𝗬𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽 𝗼𝗻 𝗧𝘂𝗲𝘀𝗱𝗮𝘆, 𝗗𝗲𝗰. 𝟲 𝗮𝘁 𝟳 𝗣𝗠 𝗘𝗧!

𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝕋𝕣𝕦𝕥𝕙 𝔸𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕃𝕖𝕒𝕣𝕟𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕊𝕥𝕪𝕝𝕖𝕤 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕎𝕙𝕪 𝕚𝕥 𝕄𝕒𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕤 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕐𝕠𝕦𝕣 ℂ𝕙𝕚𝕝𝕕’𝕤 𝕊𝕦𝕔𝕔𝕖𝕤𝕤 𝕚𝕟 𝕊𝕔𝕙𝕠𝕠𝕝

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻:

✅ Why kids are often classified as Auditory, Visual, or Kinesthetic learners

✅ The research showing “learning styles” are actually a bust

✅ The most effective study strategies all learners should master

✅ The scaffolding, or layering, method to help your student mesh their preferences with other activities to better challenge their brain

✅ How to turn passive studying sessions into active and engaging learning sessions

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𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗶𝘁, 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗲'𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗹𝗮𝘆 𝘃𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗼.

12/01/2022

How to Choose a Skilled Divorce Mediator | Leave Strong

It may surprise you to learn there are no special requirements in California for a person to hang up a sign and promote themselves as a “Divorce Mediator.”
Read more at https://www.leavestrong.com/post/2018/03/25/how-to-choose-a-skilled-divorce-mediator

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Choosing a skilled divorce mediator is important. Learn how to choose a divorce mediator in Southern California from Leave Strong Divorce Services.

11/30/2022

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Overwhelmed by divorce? Our vetted divorce experts from Carlsbad will talk you through the legal, financial, real estate, and emotional issues related to divorce. Register now at http://bit.ly/CarlsbadDec13 for our no-cost confidential live webinar and take the first step in demystifying the divorce process and planning for your future.

11/22/2022

The Rise of the Gray Divorce and What it Means to Women

There is a new trend in the divorce statistics as a result of our longevity. There's even a label for it, it's called the "Gray Divorce." Divorces among couples over age 50 are happening at twice the rate they did just a generation ago. And it’s causing substantial financial risks for women.
Read more at https://www.leavestrong.com/post/2018/09/15/the-rise-of-the-gray-divorce-and-what-it-means-to-women

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There is a new trend in the divorce statistics as a result of our longevity. There's even a label for it's called "Gray Divorce." Divorces among couples over ag

11/17/2022

How to Change Your Name as Part of your Divorce in California

If you are planning to change your name as part of your divorce process, there are a few steps you need to take during and after divorce to accomplish that task. Keep in mind that name changes are not automatic when you file for divorce.
Read more at https://www.leavestrong.com/post/how-to-change-your-name-as-part-of-your-divorce-in-california

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If you are planning to change your name as part of your divorce process, there are a few steps you need to take during and after divorce to accomplish that task. Keep in mind that name changes are not automatic when you file for divorce. A change of name post-divorce will require you to take the sam...

11/11/2022

Understanding Spousal Support in California

The courts in the State of California may award support to either spouse where there is a need for support. The marital misconduct of either spouse is not a consideration when determining the amount of spousal support, as California is a no-fault state.
Read more at https://www.leavestrong.com/post/understanding-spousal-support-in-california

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The courts in the State of California may award support to either spouse where there is a need for support. The marital misconduct of either spouse is not a consideration when determining the amount of spousal support, as California is a no-fault state. There are two kinds of spousal support. “Tem...

10/24/2022

Middle Class Tax Refund Estimator | FTB.ca.gov

Find out if you are eligible for the California tax rebate;

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10/07/2022

I am thrilled to share that Tracy Malone, author, and trainer will be the guest trainer at my next co-parenting Mastermind group meeting. if you have not read her book and you are divorcing a narcissist, you need to!

09/28/2022

Register For A Divorce Webinar in Carlsbad

This is a virtual information seminar all you have to do is sign up see you this evening.

09/27/2022

Marriage of Hein for Calif Family Law

If you or your spouse is self-employed the income available for support may not be obvious from the personal tax returns. It's important that you do not attempt to determine this calculation yourself you're going to need the support of a CDFA.

This short video discusses the themes of Marriage of Hein namely how depreciation is treated in support calculations and the burden of proof with respect to ...

09/26/2022

08/16/2022

Is it time for a reset?

08/15/2022

How to Change Your Name as Part of your Divorce in California

Yes, you can change your name as part of your Divorce or Legal Separation in California. Here's a checklist to help you sort out how:

If you are planning to change your name as part of your divorce process, there are a few steps you need to take during and after divorce to accomplish that task. Keep in mind that name changes are not automatic when you file for divorce. A change of name post-divorce will require you to take the sam...

07/20/2022

How every child can thrive by five

I'm the she of the Internet it can be easy to forget about the impotence of human interaction.

"What if I was to tell you that a game of peek-a-boo could change the world?" asks seven-year-old Molly Wright, one of the youngest-ever TED speakers. Breaking down the research-backed ways parents and caregivers can support children's healthy brain development, Wright highlights the benefits of pla...