05/28/2026
I remember my grandmother advising me not to put anything in writing “unless you want to see it in the New York Times”. At the time I didn’t realize just how wise she was. Obviously, if it was in writing, it could be shared with little question as to what was written.
Today, this advise takes on a greater meaning. With texting, emails, snapchat, and other digital communications there is a never-ending source of written comments. The posted message when you become angry or feel like gossiping about someone will last forever. It may not make the New York Times, but it can certainly be saved and shared. It could also rear its head in the future, as so many political candidates learn. Their off the cuff comments resurface and demonstrate aspects of their character they thought they had put in the past and outgrew. Not only do candidates have to deal with previous comments, but some defendants are learning the hard way, as threats, comments, and posts are being used against them as evidence.
Several years ago, I was able to use past Facebook posts in a case to help leverage a plea bargain. The “victim” thought they had successfully deleted the posts, but we had screenshots - proving that posts online never truly disappear.
People would be wise to heed my grandmother’s advice, as it seems more relevant today than ever.