12/09/2026
It started with the parking. Then the notes in the letterbox. Then someone standing at the end of the driveway at ten at night, saying nothing, just standing there.
Nobody arrives at this situation all at once. It builds, one small thing at a time, and because each incident on its own sounds minor when you say it out loud, most people never mention it to anyone. They assume the law is for something worse than what is happening to them.
It is not. Under the Harassment Act 1997, harassment is a pattern of behaviour directed at you on at least two separate occasions within a 12-month period. Repeated calls, texts or emails. Following, watching or loitering near your home or workplace. Repeated visits that cause distress. Confrontational conduct that escalates over time. None of it has to be violent, and it most often arises between neighbours, over boundaries, noise, parking, pets or property use.
If the District Court is satisfied the harassment has occurred and is likely to continue, it can make a restraining order stopping contact, stopping the person approaching your property, and stopping the behaviour. Breaching that order is a criminal offence carrying a fine or imprisonment. That is what gives it teeth.
Our solicitor Ashley Smith has written the full picture, including what the Court weighs up and what evidence helps: https://bmlegal.co.nz/harassment-and-restraining-orders-in-new-zealand-civil-harassment/
If you are in immediate danger, call 111.