03/01/2026
Last night I reached out to some colleagues to see who had capacity to support a potential client while I am on leave with limited reception. Ashleigh the Advocate was one of those colleagues, and I was blindsided to hear that she has recently passed away while on holiday in Lituania.
I’m still struggling to find words, which probably says everything.
I first met Ashleigh as a peer in this work, but very quickly she became so much more than that. She was a mentor, a sounding board, someone I quietly admired long before we ever became friends. I remember meeting her for the first time at an ELINZ conference and feeling genuinely nervous; I’d been a fan for years and out mutual friend Jai Peacock decided it was time we meet. She had this reputation for being sharp, fearless, principled… and somehow still deeply human. She didn’t disappoint.
Over the last few years, our relationship shifted into a real friendship. The kind where you check in without a reason, where conversations wander between work, values, frustrations, wins, and life. The kind that sneaks up on you and suddenly matters a great deal. Losing her feels unreal. I’m still in shock, and honestly, a bit heartbroken.
Ashleigh was a trailblazer in every sense of the word. She stood up for people others overlooked or avoided. She took on the hard cases, the uncomfortable ones, the David-and-Goliath fights - and she did it with courage, integrity, and an unwavering sense of justice. She didn’t flinch. She didn’t back down. She made space for people who so often aren’t given any.
But beyond her brilliance, she was kind. Fiercely independent, yes, but generous with her time, her knowledge, and her support. She made this profession better, and she made the people in it better too.
My heart is with Andy, her whānau, and everyone who loved her. The love you shared was obvious to anyone who knew you both; steady, supportive, and deeply connected. It was something special.
Ash, the world is poorer without you in it. I will miss our chats more than I can say. Thank you for the guidance, the friendship, the courage you modelled, and the way you showed up - always.
Rest in love, my friend. You mattered. You still do.