Chioma Onyenucheya-Uko

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Nigeria's Insecurity Is Creating Another Crisis We Are Not Talking About Enough: Violence Against Women and Girls.When p...
06/06/2026

Nigeria's Insecurity Is Creating Another Crisis We Are Not Talking About Enough: Violence Against Women and Girls.

When people hear about insecurity, they often think about kidnappings, bandit attacks, insurgency, communal clashes, and loss of lives.

What we do not talk about enough is the silent suffering that many women and girls endure in the middle of these crises.

Behind every attack, displacement, or conflict, there are often women and girls whose stories never make the headlines. Some are subjected to sexual violence. Some are forced into marriages they did not choose. Some are trafficked. Others carry deep emotional and psychological wounds long after the violence has ended.

Not long ago, I listened to the account of a young woman who had been displaced by violence in her community. While the world focused on the conflict itself, her greatest struggle began after she escaped. She lost her sense of safety, her education was interrupted, and she became vulnerable to exploitation simply because she was a young woman trying to survive.

Sadly, her story is not unique.

Across different parts of Nigeria, insecurity continues to place women and girls at greater risk of abuse, exploitation, and violence. Many cases are never reported. Many survivors never receive justice. Many continue to suffer in silence.

As a society, we must begin to recognize that insecurity is not only a security issue. It is also a human rights issue, a women's rights issue, and a child protection issue.

We must strengthen protection mechanisms for women and girls in vulnerable communities. We must ensure that survivors have access to justice and support services. We must hold perpetrators accountable. And we must have honest conversations about the risks faced by young women, including those deployed to areas with known security concerns for NYSC.

Every woman deserves to live without fear.

Every girl deserves to pursue her future without the threat of violence.

And every Nigerian deserves a country where safety is not a privilege but a right.

The protection of women and girls cannot remain an afterthought. It must become a priority.


06/06/2026

Every Child Deserves to Feel Loved, Seen, and Celebrated. ❤️

As we marked Children's Day 2026, members of FIDA Nigeria, Abuja Branch had the privilege of spending time with the beautiful children of Markada Care Home in Kurudu, Abuja.

For us, this was more than an outreach. It was an opportunity to remind these children that they matter, that they are valued, and that they are not forgotten.

We shared meals, told stories, laughed together, played games, offered mentorship and encouragement, and spent time listening to them. We also donated educational materials, welfare items, toiletries, toys, and other gifts to support both the children and the Home.

One of the most touching parts of the day was seeing the smiles on their faces and the joy that filled the atmosphere. Moments like these remind us that sometimes the greatest gifts we can give a child are our presence, our attention, our kindness, and our belief in their future.

At FIDA Abuja, we remain committed to promoting and protecting the rights, welfare, and wellbeing of every child. We believe that every child deserves the opportunity to grow in an environment of love, care, dignity, protection, and hope.

I sincerely appreciate all members of FIDA Abuja who contributed financially, donated items, volunteered their time, and actively participated in making this outreach a success. Your generosity, compassion, and commitment continue to demonstrate the true spirit of service.

As we celebrate our children, let us all remember that the future we desire for our nation begins with how we care for, protect, and invest in our children today.

Together, we can continue to make a difference, one child at a time. ❤️

Chioma Onyenucheya Uko Esq.
Chairperson, FIDA Abuja Branch





Not long ago, in a conversation, a woman said something I will never forget.She said:"I am tired, but I don't know what ...
01/06/2026

Not long ago, in a conversation, a woman said something I will never forget.

She said:

"I am tired, but I don't know what I want anymore. Part of me wants peace. Another part of me wants justice."

For years, she had carried hurt quietly. She had been disappointed, neglected, and repeatedly wounded by people she trusted. By the time she sought help, she believed she had only two options.

Either pursue justice and remain angry.

Or heal and simply move on.

Like many people, she thought healing meant pretending nothing happened. She thought seeking justice meant holding on to bitterness forever.

You can understand where all the thoughts come from, trauma response. But that isn’t always true.

Healing and justice are not enemies.

You can choose to heal without excusing wrongdoing.

You can seek justice without becoming consumed by anger.

You can acknowledge the pain, speak your truth, pursue your rights, and still protect your peace.

One of the most beautiful moments in her journey came when she realized that seeking justice was not about revenge. It was about restoring dignity, establishing boundaries, and affirming her worth.

And healing was not about forgetting. It was about refusing to allow the pain to control the rest of her life.

Dearie, if life has hurt you, please remember this:

You do not have to sacrifice your healing to pursue justice.

And you do not have to abandon justice in order to heal.

Both can exist together.

You deserve peace. You deserve dignity. You deserve healing. And also, where necessary, you deserve justice too.




On the occasion of Eid-el-Kabir, I extend my warmest greetings to our Muslim brothers and sisters across Nigeria and aro...
27/05/2026

On the occasion of Eid-el-Kabir, I extend my warmest greetings to our Muslim brothers and sisters across Nigeria and around the world.

As we celebrate this sacred season of faith, sacrifice, obedience, compassion, and devotion to Almighty Allah, may its timeless lessons continue to inspire peace, kindness, tolerance, justice, and humanity in our daily lives and relationships with one another.

Eid-el-Kabir reminds us of the values of selflessness, love for humanity, and our shared responsibility to build a more peaceful, just, and compassionate society. In these challenging times, may this celebration strengthen the bonds of unity among us as Nigerians and renew our collective hope for a safer, fairer, and more prosperous nation.

As Chairperson of , I also extend heartfelt Eid greetings to all our Muslim sisters and brothers within the association nationwide. I reaffirm our unwavering commitment to protecting the rights, dignity, welfare, and wellbeing of women, children, and vulnerable persons in our society. May this season further encourage us all to continue showing compassion, support, and protection to those in need around us.

May Almighty Allah accept your prayers, sacrifices, and acts of worship, and bless every home with peace, joy, good health, and abundant blessings.

Wishing you and your loved ones a joyful and peaceful Eid-el-Kabir celebration.

Eid Mubarak 🌙

Chioma Onyenucheya Uko, Esq.
Chairperson, FIDA Abuja Branch





Dearie, did you know that under Nigerian law, a woman does not always need to file for divorce before seeking financial ...
26/05/2026

Dearie, did you know that under Nigerian law, a woman does not always need to file for divorce before seeking financial support and maintenance from her husband?

Many people genuinely do not know this.

There was this story I read from Twitter the other day, a woman who was emotionally exhausted and financially overwhelmed in her marriage. Interestingly, divorce was not even what she wanted. She still hoped things could improve. But what broke her emotionally was the burden of carrying responsibilities alone while silently suffering financial neglect.

One thing was painfully clear clear to me. Many women are enduring difficult situations simply because they believe their only option is to either remain silent or completely end the marriage.

But the law is gradually evolving to provide protection even before a marriage reaches breaking point.

In a significant Supreme Court decision delivered in 2025, the Court clarified that wives and children can seek maintenance, welfare, and educational support without necessarily filing for divorce or judicial separation first.

This is important because many people still wrongly assume that financial support can only be addressed once a marriage has completely collapsed.

Under the Matrimonial Causes Act, the Court can consider factors such as:

1. The earning capacity of both parties
2. Financial contributions within the marriage
3. The welfare and needs of the children
4. Contributions made as a homemaker and caregiver
5. The standard of living of the family

This means that a woman facing financial neglect in marriage may still have legal options available even if she is not ready to dissolve the marriage itself.

Sadly, many people suffer in silence simply because they do not know their rights, ask questions late, or wait until situations become emotionally unbearable before seeking guidance.

Sometimes, the right information at the right time can prevent years of unnecessary suffering.

Listen dearie,

Knowledge matters.
Awareness matters.
And understanding your rights can sometimes protect your peace, dignity, and future.




Dearie, did you know? 🤔Sometimes, choosing yourself is not selfish.Sometimes, it is the beginning of healing, peace, dig...
25/05/2026

Dearie, did you know? 🤔

Sometimes, choosing yourself is not selfish.
Sometimes, it is the beginning of healing, peace, dignity, stability, and self respect.

There are moments in life where protecting your mental health, emotional wellbeing, growth, and peace requires courage. Not everybody will understand those decisions, but that does not make them wrong.

May you never feel guilty for choosing the version of your life that allows you heal, grow, breathe, and become whole again.

Have a peaceful evening. 🤗




One of the things I genuinely worry about in this generation is how many young people are silently struggling emotionall...
25/05/2026

One of the things I genuinely worry about in this generation is how many young people are silently struggling emotionally while pretending to be fine.

Everybody is tired.
Everybody is under pressure.
Everybody is trying to survive, succeed, heal, prove something, build something, or recover from something.

And in the middle of all this noise, many people never really learned how to manage their emotions in healthy ways.

Not too long ago, a young lady reached out to me after a serious disagreement with someone close to her. In the middle of anger and emotional pain, she reacted impulsively, said hurtful things, damaged important relationships, and later admitted that deep down, she was already emotionally overwhelmed long before that moment happened.

As we spoke, one thing became very clear. Sometimes, people are not just reacting to one situation. They are reacting from accumulated stress, unhealed emotions, pressure, disappointment, loneliness, and mental exhaustion.

This is why emotional intelligence matters so much.

Learning how to pause before reacting.
Learning how to communicate without unnecessary aggression.
Learning how to process pain without destroying yourself or others.
Learning how to walk away from certain arguments.
Learning how to control emotions instead of allowing emotions control your entire life.

Honestly, not every battle deserves your energy.
Not every insult deserves a response.
Not every disappointment should destroy your peace.

A lot of young people are carrying emotional wounds they never healed from, and unfortunately, some people now project those wounds everywhere they go.

The truth is, a peaceful life is not built only by money or success. It is also built by emotional maturity, self awareness, inner healing, and self control.

In a chaotic world like ours, emotional intelligence is no longer optional.
It is survival.
It is protection.
It is peace.




The recent killing of a teacher, Mr. Michael Oyedokun, following the abduction of teachers and students in Oyo State, is...
21/05/2026

The recent killing of a teacher, Mr. Michael Oyedokun, following the abduction of teachers and students in Oyo State, is one of those painful reminders of how insecurity continues to affect ordinary Nigerians in devastating ways. One moment, a man is educating young minds and shaping futures. The next moment, his life is violently taken. It is heartbreaking.

These type of stories deeply disturb the conscience, especially when they involve innocent people simply trying to live honestly and contribute meaningfully to society.

Beyond the headlines and statistics are families left grieving, children left traumatized, students left fearful, and citizens gradually losing confidence in their safety and future within the country.

What becomes even more concerning is the effect this environment is having on young Nigerians. Many young people no longer dream freely about building, innovating, creating, or contributing meaningfully to society because survival itself has become exhausting enough. When fear becomes normal and insecurity begins to shape everyday life, hope quietly starts fading.

A nation cannot truly progress where schools are unsafe, communities live in fear, and young people feel uncertain about tomorrow. Security is not simply about protection. It is the foundation upon which education, economic growth, innovation, opportunity, and national development stand.

This is why there is an urgent need for stronger security systems, better protection for schools and vulnerable communities, accountability, proactive intelligence gathering, and more intentional investment in the future of Nigerian youth.

The lives of citizens should never feel disposable.

And perhaps one of the most important responsibilities of leadership is creating an environment where people can live, learn, work, dream, and grow without constantly fearing for their safety.




It is always a nostalgic delight celebrating the Day of the Girl Child, each year.Speaking to the girls we were;Hoping s...
11/10/2024

It is always a nostalgic delight celebrating the Day of the Girl Child, each year.

Speaking to the girls we were;

Hoping something we say or the look of us inspires and kindles a light in them;

Fervently wading all harm and impediments away from them by the sheer will of our hearts;

And trusting that just as we mustered the elements in our favour, against whatever odds,

that they too, shall someday be the beacon for our other generations of girls.

It was such joy pumping up the beautiful pupils of today in celebration of the 2024 international day of the girl child.

Here’s to our girls - for a GIRLS VISION FOR THE FUTURE that we’ll all be proud of! 🥂🙌🏽😇






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13/06/2024

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Thank you very much.


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