LKW Family Mediation

LKW Family Mediation LKW Family Mediation helps separating couples talk through the arrangements they will make for their

Particularly touched by this bit of feedback because one of the most important things in family mediation is to understa...
05/06/2026

Particularly touched by this bit of feedback because one of the most important things in family mediation is to understand at each stage what your next steps are. They should be tailored to you and your needs but it is essential that you understand your options.

We want all our clients to feel the empathy we have and to feel that things are clear to them at every stage even if the decisions they have to make aren't always easy.

So thank you for trusting us at this difficult time.

This can be enormously frustrating so it can be reassuring to know that it is a common concern.Often parents both want t...
03/06/2026

This can be enormously frustrating so it can be reassuring to know that it is a common concern.

Often parents both want to put their children first. They just disagree on what the best option is for their children.

How can mediation help with this?

Firstly, it can be helpful to temporarily park looking at options. It's so easy to get fixed on looking at different childcare routines but it helps to start with a discussion about your children.

What do you each see as the most important factors in creating a routine for them in two homes?

What particular needs do your children have?

What do you think might be important for them?

What do you think wouldn't work for them?

To give some examples of common things that come up young children often struggle to go a long time without seeing the other parent. This isn't true in all cases but it is something to bear in mind whereas older children can prefer to spend more time in one place rather than changing frequently - especially if they are studying for exams. Again this isn't set in stone and it's important to think about your children but it gives you an idea of the kind of things to think about.

Having this discussion enables you both to understand the lens that you're each looking at things through. Maybe one person is focused more on one aspect of your child or children and the other parent on another aspect so you're seeing things differently.

These conversations in family mediation can be so helpful in understanding each other's perspectives before you come to looking at the detail of any routine.

For more information have a look at the LKW Family Mediation website. You'll find free resources, and the ability to book a free 10 minute call with a mediator.

https://lkwfamilymediation.co.uk/services-for-those-going-through-a-separation/

Sometimes it's hard to see the light at the tunnel in a divorce or separation. It's even harder when you feel like you'...
01/06/2026

Sometimes it's hard to see the light at the tunnel in a divorce or separation. It's even harder when you feel like you've been walking or crawling through the tunnel for some time. This can be when your mental health starts to slide and you wonder if things can ever be brought to a satisfactory conclusion.

Our job as mediators is to help you know that the light at the end of the tunnel is there - even if you can't see it yet.

It's also to ensure that you know exactly what steps you need to take to get you to that light. It's also to ensure that the steps you need to take are manageable for both of you so you don't feel overwhelmed as that stops you taking steps forward.

Family mediation is often the quickest and most cost effective way of sorting out issues when you separate. AND you can get £500 from the government towards your mediation costs where you want to talk about issues relating to your children.

For more information give us a call on 01306 320520 or email [email protected]

Here is some more feedback from a client of LKW Family Mediation's. We collect the feedback and share it anonymously so...
29/05/2026

Here is some more feedback from a client of LKW Family Mediation's. We collect the feedback and share it anonymously so that others can get a better idea of what it's like to work with us.

We are so grateful that our clients are able to trust us during one of the most difficult times of their lives.

This is both common and frustrating and there can be 3 reasons for this:1. When a couple separates there is a grief pro...
27/05/2026

This is both common and frustrating and there can be 3 reasons for this:

1. When a couple separates there is a grief process that happens. Sometimes one person has travelled some of it by the time they tell the other person they want to separate. This can mean that the people involved are at different places in this process. If at each stage it's like talking a different language (as a brilliant mediator once explained to me) then it's no wonder your conversations don't make sense to each other.

2. One of the reasons relationships break down is a lack of communication. Maybe you feel you can't tell your partner how you feel because they won't react in a way that is positive for you. Maybe they can't handle what you need to say or maybe you feel you don't care. When you haven't communicated meaningfully or properly for some time it means post-separation communication can be coming from a place neither of you understand.

3. It's hard talking about what happens next after a separation. When things are hard we often talk in code or euphemisms or we rush what we're saying because it feels scary and unknown. So sometimes what you're saying isn't clear to the other person even though you know exactly what you're saying. This can lead to miscommunications and misunderstandings.

Whatever the reasons for this it's one of the ways in which family mediation helps when you separate because a mediator will always look to properly understand what each of you are saying and that each of you are understanding what the other is trying to say - even if that takes a bit of time.

For more information about family mediation have a look at the LKW Family Mediation website. You can book a free 10 minute chat with a mediator there too.

https://lkwfamilymediation.co.uk/services-for-those-going-through-a-separation/

27/05/2026

The but on getting professional support for anyone going through a separation.

There are some significant life events that come with a ton of urban legends about someone someone knows you had the wor...
25/05/2026

There are some significant life events that come with a ton of urban legends about someone someone knows you had the worst time imaginable. Like childbirth divorce is sadly one of those. Everyone seems to know someone who spend a eye watering amount of money, took 10 years to sort everything out or dealt with the world's worst ex.

It can make you panicky and fearful when you hear these stories. Especially so if you're worried about certain aspects of your divorce. The good news is hat such stories tend to be the exception rather than the rule.

Family mediation helps a separating couple work together to create a resolution and a set of next steps that works for them and meets everyone's needs. There might be compromises along the way but those are looked at comprehensively and discussed so everyone makes the concessions they feel OK with.

A family mediator provides information and facilitates discussion to keep things on track so you know you are taking the best steps for you, and doing what's needed from a legal perspective.

For more information about family mediation either comment or DM your questions or have a look at the LKW Family Mediation website. You can book a 10 minute phone call with a mediator to find out more.

https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/96d803a5

One of the really difficult things about separation is financially supporting two homes instead of one. As a couple you...
23/05/2026

One of the really difficult things about separation is financially supporting two homes instead of one. As a couple you may have just about made ends meet in one home or you might have found things were pretty good in one home but adding two homes into the mix can create a strain.

Lots of parents choose to work part time or flexibly so that they can be a present parent as well as earning money and having a career. Separation can challenge this and when, in family mediation meetings, we're looking at how to create two homes from one, the reality can be that one parent, or both parents needs to earn more money to make it work.

This is something that always touches and resonates with me. One of the reasons I set up LKW Family mediation in 2013 was because I had two small children and I could not see how I could manage being the present parent I wanted to be with having a career and earning the salary I needed to for our household finances.

I knew that I was enjoying my mediation work more than my lawyer work but could I really make that a full time career and not lawyer any more? At the time very few people had done this. I took a giant leap of faith that I could make it work and the three things that served me well were:

1. I had an unshakeable belief that it would succeed even when many times what was in front of me told me it might not.

2. I was absolutely passionate about how mediation could help and that I would work in a professional, ethical, empathetic and compassionate way to help others.

3. I was helped by so many brilliant people along the way AND I got over my own fears about asking people for help and guidance (which was not easy!).

So if this is you right now worrying about making it work I see you and I am living proof that things can work out the right way in the end.

This can make you worried about trying family mediation. If you've been in a relationship where you didn't feel listene...
19/05/2026

This can make you worried about trying family mediation. If you've been in a relationship where you didn't feel listened to and that your suggestions were never taken on board then it's no wonder you might feel reticent, fearful or concerned about coming into family mediation. These 3 things may help to reassure you:

1. Everyone has an initial meeting with a mediator on their own. The mediator will check if mediation is suitable and looking at whether there has been abuse and control in the relationship is an essential part of this. It also helps the mediator to understand your concerns so they know what is needed of them as the mediator if mediation is to go ahead.

2. Mediators are highly trained and although there is a great deal of flexibility, mediation is a prescribed process. It is very different to simply talking about things round your kitchen table. The mediator's job is to ensure each person is able to have their say and that they are understanding what each other are saying. The mediator also helps you to stay on track rather than going off on different tangents.

3. If you decide to try mediation it doesn't mean you're signing up to come to meetings until things are resolved. If it's not working then you can flag this and the mediator will likely want to talk about it too. Sometimes mediation might end or pause because the time has come to try another process or because some other support might be needed before mediation can resume.

If you have questions about mediation then give LKW Family Mediation a call on 01306 320520 or email [email protected] or you can book a 10 minute chat with a mediator online via the website (find the link via my bio).

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