04/07/2026
LAST BUT NOT LEAST: Choosing Your Executor
Part 4: Common Choices — Pros and Cons
When writing or updating their will, most people’s minds turn first to the question, “Who gets what?” Today, we continue with helping answer the often-overlooked question, “Who should carry out my wishes?”
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Over the past few posts, we’ve covered what an executor does and who is eligible to act. We’ve also looked at the qualities that make a strong executor. Now comes the practical question: who should you actually choose?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. We’re not all billionaire Monty Burns or celebrity Krusty the Clown with personal assistants and sideshows. Principal Skinner’s mother will likely rely on Principal Skinner. Most others will also draw from a familiar pool of candidates. Below are the most common choices — along with their advantages and potential pitfalls.
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**Disclaimer: This post is general legal information and should not be interpreted as legal advice.**
Common Choices for Executor — Pros and Cons
Spouse or Partner
For many, their spouse is the natural first choice.
Pros:
- Familiar with your assets, liabilities, and wishes
- Likely to be your main beneficiary and trusted by other beneficiaries
- Efficient decision-making (especially in simple estates)
- May already have authority regarding utilities, subscriptions, and other accounts
Cons:
- Probably dealing with grief at the same time
- May lack the time or organizational capacity required
- If they predecease you, die at the same time (e.g., car crash), or are unable to act, an alternate is essential
A spouse is often a practical choice — but not automatically the best one in every case. Being less emotional and more capable, Adult Lisa could leave less margin for error as Homer’s executor.
Adult Children
Adult children are another very common option.
Pros:
- Personal interest in the estate being administered properly
- Familiar with family dynamics, relationships
- Also familiar with your estate and wishes to some degree
- May be well-positioned to communicate with other beneficiaries
Cons:
- Potential for conflict, especially if one child is chosen over others
- Emotional involvement can complicate decision-making
- May lack experience or availability
Many people choose their executor (e.g., oldest child) based on habit, expectation, a dated sense of tradition, or a desire to avoid hurt feelings. But this role is not ceremonial — it carries real legal responsibility and potential personal liability. The best choice is the person (or people) most capable of doing the job well.
Avoid opting for the oldest child when a younger child is more able or available. Sense of tradition and honour need not, and should not, factor in to a modern choice of executor. Anyway, El Barto probably wouldn’t even have cause to complain if [age-of-majority-in-Springfield]-year old Maggie got picked ahead of him!
Other Family Members or Friends
Other typical choices include siblings, nieces/nephews, or trusted friends.
Pros:
- May be more neutral than immediate family
- Can bring useful skills or experience not present among family members
- Often willing to step in where close family cannot due to grieving or other circumstances
Cons:
- May not fully understand your wishes or family dynamics
- Potential for tension with beneficiaries
- May feel burdened by the responsibility
Distant relatives or friends can be a strong option where neutrality and capability outweigh kinship or tradition. “Stupid" Flanders does have entrepreneurial experience and a stanch record of trustworthiness. Even Homer might be convinced; at least he won’t have to deal with him!
Professional Executors (Lawyers, Trust Companies)
Some choose to appoint a professional, such as a lawyer or trust company.
Pros:
- Experience with estate administration and probate
- Neutral and objective decision-making
- Continuity and long-term availability more likely
Cons:
- Fees (often charged as a percentage or hourly)
- Less personal knowledge of your wishes and relationships
- Maybe unwilling to deal with or individually dispose of personal property
- Possibly less flexible or responsive than a trusted family member or friend
Professional executors are often appropriate for complex estates, blended families, or where conflict is anticipated. Even if you do not choose a professional, it is often a good idea to give your chosen executors the power to delegate their power to a professional if they can no longer act and have no other options.
Joint Executors
You may appoint more than one executor to act together.
Pros:
- Shared responsibility and oversight
- Balances strengths (e.g., one organized, one communicative)
- Can reduce risk of misconduct
Cons:
- Must act together on all decisions
- Increased time, cost, and coordination
- Risk of disagreement or delay
- Requires mechanism to settle disagreements
Joint appointments work best where the individuals communicate well and are willing to collaborate closely.
Some parents appoint multiple children jointly to promote fairness. While well-intentioned, this can slow the process and create gridlock if disagreements arise. Joint executors essentially have to act as if “joined-at-the-hip”. Even twins like Aunt Patty and Aunt Selma have their own personal lives (at least in some episodes)!
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What We Haven’t Covered
This series has focused on who to choose — not every legal detail of the executor role itself.
Important considerations we have not addressed here include:
- Close review of executor powers and limits of authority: outlining what your executor can (and cannot) do under your will and at law
- Compensation: how executors are paid, whether by your will, agreement, or court approval
- Removal or replacement: what happens if an executor is unable or unwilling to act
- Estate complexity: how business interests, foreign assets, or ongoing trusts can affect administration
These issues can significantly impact how smoothly your estate is administered.
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Concluding Thoughts
This concludes our series on choosing your executor. Thanks for following along!
We have covered what executors do, who is eligible in Nova Scotia, the qualities of a good executor, and common choices. If the references to Simpsons’ characters haven’t inspired you, I wish you best of luck in the Futurama!
On a more serious note, if you’re still unsure who to appoint, or whether your current choice is the right one, getting advice now can prevent significant difficulty later.
Contact Cutcliffe Law to ensure your estate plan is clear, practical, and built to work when it matters most.