BIM LAW

BIM LAW Lawyer and Mediator in Calgary • Avocats à Calgary Contact us for sound legal advice.

At BIM LAW, we value our clients and treat them with respect while providing them with strong representation for their legal cases. We pride ourselves on our ability to offer quick responses and relevant perspectives tailored to suit your situation. Our areas of expertise include Divorce applications, Separation agreements, Parenting and Custody issues, Child and Spousal support and other matters

related to family law. We will also assist you with your Wills and Estate matters, Real Estate transactions, Contract disputes, and Civil litigation cases.

06/01/2026

Not all abuse looks like abuse. Sometimes it looks like pressure.
Silence.
Fear.
Confusion.
Control disguised as concern.

In Episode 2 of *Family & Beyond*, family lawyers Bim Delalu and Bola Badejoko discuss the realities of coercive control, separation, escalation, and the hidden dynamics that often intensify after someone tries to leave.

This conversation explores:
• Separation and post-separation risk
• Emotional and financial control
• The impact on children and family dynamics
• Why support, planning, and legal strategy matter
• The difference between conflict and coercive patterns

Leaving does not always end control.
Sometimes separation reveals how much control was there.

The Breaking Point: Separation, Escalation & Risk
Now streaming on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozjLRwHKFVo and on Spotify.

⚠️ Disclaimer: This episode discusses domestic violence, coercive control, emotional abuse, separation risk, and trauma-related themes. The content shared is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please contact emergency services or a local domestic violence support organization in your area.


B2G Law Group

One of the most significant developments in family law and intimate partner violence discussions came in Ahluwalia v. Ah...
05/19/2026

One of the most significant developments in family law and intimate partner violence discussions came in Ahluwalia v. Ahluwalia, 2026 SCC 16.

In a landmark 6–3 decision, the Supreme Court of Canada recognized a new tort of intimate partner violence, paving the way for litigants to pursue damages against romantic partners for conduct extending beyond physical violence, including isolation, humiliation, surveillance, financial control, sexual coercion, intimidation, and other forms of coercive control.

That matters.

Because many survivors have long struggled to explain that what they experienced was not always one isolated incident, it was the pattern.

The ongoing monitoring.
The intimidation.
The emotional destabilization.
The erosion of confidence and autonomy over time.
The financial control.
The post-separation conflict and continued attempts at control.

At the centre of the case was Kuldeep Ahluwalia, who asked the Court to recognize a new tort of family violence arising from the physical, emotional, and financial abuse she alleged her husband inflicted over the course of their 16-year marriage.

As someone who practices family law, this decision is important because it reflects a growing legal recognition that some family conflicts are not simply “high-conflict relationships” or communication issues. Sometimes there are deeper patterns of coercion and control affecting parenting, litigation, decision-making, and the emotional well-being of those involved, especially children.

What stands out in this decision is the Court’s recognition that coercive control is often systemic, ongoing, and designed to deprive a person of autonomy.

That is a very different conversation from simply asking whether physical violence occurred.

Awareness matters.

Because if we fail to understand patterns, we risk minimizing the impact of them.

And as the law evolves, so must the conversations around relationships, conflict, accountability, boundaries, and healthy family dynamics.

If you are navigating high-conflict family dynamics, coercive control concerns, parenting disputes, or post-separation conflict, seeking informed legal guidance and appropriate support early can make a significant difference.

Bridging the gap between legal qualification and practice.If you are preparing for articling or you are an international...
05/11/2026

Bridging the gap between legal qualification and practice.

If you are preparing for articling or you are an internationally trained lawyer still looking for practical exposure, LexReady Practice Intensives was designed for you.

This focused, hands-on training experience is structured around how files actually move through practice:
👉 client intake and assessment
👉 drafting and procedural strategy
👉 advancing the file
👉 motions, advocacy, and resolution

The goal:
✔ build practical skills
✔ strengthen professional judgment
✔ increase confidence and clarity in practice

Small group. Practical exposure. Structured feedback.

Limited seats available.

Expression of Interest:
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📩 [email protected]
📞 587-887-4801
🌐 lexreadybootcamp.com

Not all abuse is physical.Coercive control is a pattern of behaviour, often subtle, often normalized that limits a perso...
04/13/2026

Not all abuse is physical.

Coercive control is a pattern of behaviour, often subtle, often normalized that limits a person’s autonomy, independence, and sense of self.

It can look like pressure disguised as care, control framed as protection, or silence and isolation without visible violence.

Many people remain in these situations not because they do not see it, but because of fear, conditioning, and expectation.

For a long time, the law struggled to address what could not easily be seen. That is changing.

While coercive control is not a standalone criminal offence under the Criminal Code of Canada, it is increasingly recognized as a form of family violence in civil law.

Patterns of controlling behaviour are considered under the Divorce Act and can have significant legal consequences, particularly in parenting and protection matters.

Although coercive control itself is not yet criminalized in Canada, many of the behaviours associated with it — including harassment, threats, and forcible confinement are offences under existing criminal law.

Internationally, jurisdictions such as England and Wales, Ireland, and Scotland have taken further steps. In England and Wales, coercive or controlling behaviour in an intimate or family relationship has been a criminal offence since 2015 under Section 76 of the Serious Crime Act 2015.

This matters.

If your autonomy feels limited or your reality is constantly questioned -it matters. You do not have to navigate it alone.

At BIM LAW, we approach these situations with clarity, strategy, and care.



B2G Law Group

You’re qualified. So why isn’t it translating?Many internationally trained and early-career lawyers enter the Canadian l...
04/08/2026

You’re qualified. So why isn’t it translating?

Many internationally trained and early-career lawyers enter the Canadian legal market with strong academic credentials — yet struggle to secure articling positions.
This is not a question of capability.
It is a question of transition.

Join us for an in-person information session hosted by LexReady Bootcamp™, where we’ll explore:
▪ Why qualified candidates struggle to secure articling positions
▪ What employers are actually looking for
▪ The gap between academic success and practice readiness
▪ How to position yourself for real opportunities

This session is designed for those ready to move beyond theory and understand what it truly takes to become practice-ready.

📅 April 28, 2026
⏰ 5:30 PM – 7:00 PM
📍 736 6 Avenue SW, Calgary

Register by email or message: 587-887-4801 (limited spots available)


04/03/2026

A court order or agreement can create structure — but it does not fix family dysfunction.

It cannot repair communication.
It cannot resolve conflict.
And it does not automatically create healthy co-parenting.

What happens between parents day-to-day is what truly shapes outcomes for children.

Successful co-parenting requires more than compliance, it requires awareness, accountability, and the willingness to manage conflict differently.

Because the goal is not just to have an order in place.

It is to create an environment where children are not caught in the middle of unresolved issues.

Beyond a court order or agreement, successful co-parenting requires intentional effort.In family law matters - particula...
03/22/2026

Beyond a court order or agreement, successful co-parenting requires intentional effort.

In family law matters - particularly in parenting and custody disputes, the focus is, and must remain, the best interests of the child.

What often presents as conflict between parents is not simply a disagreement about parenting decisions. It is frequently influenced by unresolved personal dynamics, communication patterns, and emotional responses that carry over into the co-parenting relationship.

Without awareness, these patterns can escalate conflict, impair communication, and ultimately impact a child’s emotional well-being.

Courts consistently emphasize:
• Each parent’s ability to communicate and cooperate
• The capacity to prioritize the child over personal conflict
• The willingness to support the child’s relationship with the other parent

In practice, successful co-parenting requires more than compliance with a court order or agreement, it requires intentional conduct.

This includes recognizing and breaking harmful patterns, managing conflict effectively, maintaining awareness and accountability, communicating clearly, and establishing defined boundaries.

Where these elements are present, conflict is reduced and children are better insulated from the effects of parental disputes.

Addressing underlying patterns and making intentional choices is not only beneficial — it aligns directly with the legal standard of acting in the best interests of the child.

On International Women’s Day, we honor women globally — those who work tirelessly, teach, impact, grow, and make conscio...
03/08/2026

On International Women’s Day, we honor women globally — those who work tirelessly, teach, impact, grow, and make conscious choices for their own betterment and that of future generations.

The Hard Truth About Co-Parenting — Why Good Intentions Aren’t EnoughIn family law practice, I often meet parents who de...
02/16/2026

The Hard Truth About Co-Parenting — Why Good Intentions Aren’t Enough

In family law practice, I often meet parents who deeply love their children and genuinely intend to co-parent well. Yet, intention alone does not produce healthy co-parenting outcomes.

Successful co-parenting requires far more than shared time and mutual love for children. It requires emotional regulation, clear and enforceable boundaries, accountability, consistency, and the ability to separate relationship conflict from parental responsibility.

In reality, many post-separation dynamics are complicated by grief, ego, control, unprocessed trauma, and differing parenting styles. When these factors remain unaddressed, conflict escalates, often through prolonged legal disputes.

The financial cost can be significant, and the emotional toll even greater. In many cases, funds that could have supported children’s education, therapy, or stability are consumed by litigation instead.

Children are particularly vulnerable in these environments. When exposed to ongoing conflict, loyalty binds, or parental resentment, their emotional security can suffer, even when both parents profess love.

It is essential to understand that love for your children is foundational but not, on its own, sufficient.

Co-parenting success is possible but requires self-awareness, boundaries, and often professional guidance.

If you are navigating separation or co-parenting challenges, early intervention and structured planning can make a significant difference.

For more information about family law services and mediation support, contact: www.bimlaw.com

✨ Meet the Principal of BIM LAW ✨At the heart of BIM LAW is Abimbola Delalu, LL.B., LL.M. — Managing Partner, family and...
02/08/2026

✨ Meet the Principal of BIM LAW ✨

At the heart of BIM LAW is Abimbola Delalu, LL.B., LL.M. — Managing Partner, family and divorce lawyer, qualified mediator, and legal coach.

Abimbola leads the firm with a clear focus: thoughtful advocacy, practical solutions, and supporting clients through some of life’s most difficult transitions with clarity and dignity. Her practice centres on complex family law matters, including parenting and custody disputes, child and spousal support, property division, and relationship agreements such as cohabitation, prenuptial, postnuptial, and separation agreements. She has represented clients before the Alberta Court of Justice, the Court of King’s Bench, and the Court of Appeal.

Beyond the courtroom, Abimbola is deeply committed to education and mentorship. She is the founder of LexReady Bootcamp, an articling and practice-readiness initiative supporting law graduates and internationally trained lawyers. She is also the host of the Family and Beyond podcast, where legal insight intersects with real-life family dynamics.

Whether advocating in court, mediating resolutions, or educating the community, Abimbola’s work is grounded in integrity, accountability, and a focus on long-term outcomes for families.

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