21/08/2021
All litigation is incredibly difficult. It is invasive. All the dirty laundry is out. Every single aspect of your life is exposed, scrutinised, prodded, questioned – financial and personal. Every single transaction is visible. It becomes public knowledge between the parties, every single cent you spend and where – for all parties. Letters, emails, text messages – everything is public.
Many years ago I had a probate matter where the de facto wife had one of the best claims I had seen for some time given the circumstances. However, she told me she did not want to air her dirty laundry in public. The deceased’s estranged family had offered her $10,000.00 in full and final settlement and she wanted to accept it. I refused to act. She found a solicitor who signed her up for the $10,000.00 settlement, minus his fees. Many months later she found out the estate was worth well in excess of $1,000,000.00. Her $10,000.00 had gone largely in legal fees and the rest for living expenses.
There are the emotional aspects. In family law matters there is a marriage or a relationship, children, the building of assets. In probate matters it is siblings fighting each other over injustices, whether real or perceived. In commercial matters there is often a friendship – professional or personal.
Regardless of the nature of the dispute, plans, goals, milestones that were once shared, become the public battle ground. Solicitors navigate this every day and it is not personal for the solicitor. If it becomes personal then the solicitor should step aside as they can no longer give objective legal advice. For the people involved in the litigation this is usually their first and only involvement in litigation.
A litigant has to navigate this emotional and financial maze. It has not easy. The person has to remained focused, take and consider advice, be flexible where realistic and stood strong where legally strong. A litigant has to focus on winning the war and not every battle. That is where so many litigation matters go off the rails.
As solicitors we navigate this. We are passionate about we do and act in the best interest of our clients but within reality and the legal system.