07/10/2026
At some stage during our stay on this mortal coil we may have to deal with a person dying on our watch. Most deaths do happen in a hospital or nursing home where the staff have the experience, know what to do, and will guide you in the right direction. Should you find yourself with a spouse, partner, friend, acquaintance or stranger who has died and there is no-one experienced in such things to help you, then –
1. Unless there has been foul play, don’t call the police; they will come and fetch the body but will only release the body to a proven relative or next-of-kin, or may well assume foul play and then there will be an autopsy, statements and affidavits to be made and investigated before the body is released for a funeral or memorial service or cremation. The whole situation becomes tricky when the only next-of-kin are abroad.
2. Rather call an ambulance to take the body to a hospital where a doctor will be able to certify the death. If you know the deceased’s doctor then you can rather call them as well as a funeral parlour. A funeral parlour should be saved on your smart phone as they are experts at dealing with bodies and, generally, do so with dignity and compassion.
3. Once the body is with the funeral parlour then you get hold of everyone who may know the deceased to inform them of his/her passing.
4. Then, if you or/and the deceased belong to a religious organisation, contact them and make arrangements for a funeral or memorial service. If you are not part of a religious organisation then the funeral parlour will help you arrange a memorial service. This is really important, do not be persuaded by near and dear persons who advise that the deceased never wanted a funeral; it is very important for family and friends to have closure and to have an opportunity to commiserate with the family and each other remembering the good times they shared with the deceased.
5. After that the estate of the deceased will be administered, which is a topic for another occasion.