07/25/2016
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(I'm new at this so, haven't figured out how to link it up, but hopefully soon...) For now, here's my first post:
After practicing family law for nearly 30 years in Southern California, I’ve witnessed an urgent need for reform. The courthouses can’t begin to contain all of the pain, drama and heartbreak that flow through its hallways in a seemingly endless sea of suffering.
Confucius said, “To put the world in right order we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right.” It all begins with our hearts.
Broken hearts hurt but they can heal. Its difficult to enter into our hearts and do the work that needs to be done, because everything in there is so tender. We’re dealing here with the most precious things in our lives…. our families and our children. All the more reason to start the process. As painful as it is, it becomes even more painful to keep carrying around the “bad” feelings which block the path to healing.
Inside the tender, broken heart, there is often a mountain of blame in our way. In family law, as in life in general, as an observer, it’s easy to spot all the blame that we put upon another. The problem with blaming others, is that when we do so, we give all of our power away, and this is not a wise choice. We’re going to need all of that power to make the changes in our lives which are beckoning us!
Sure, other people may make poor decisions which effect us, but when we begin to take responsibility for what is happening in our lives, we start to see the role that we’ve played in causing these circumstances to come about. This is when we start to “take back our power,” and release the victim mentality which keeps us powerless and unable to change in any meaningful way.
There is a saying, “When you point a finger at someone else, three fingers point back at you.” Try it. Its true. Once we see that we helped create the circumstances in our lives (whatever hand we had in it), we become Creators and can create new lives for ourselves, which are more harmonious and peaceful, full of acceptance and accommodation for all. We can find ourselves less and less pulled by outer circumstances and can begin to write the script of change which our hearts, our personal lives, our families, our nation, and our world sincerely need.
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