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05/01/2021
You deserve peace in your life.You deserve to end your marriage peacefully.You don't have to wage war.You can part peace...
04/30/2021

You deserve peace in your life.

You deserve to end your marriage peacefully.

You don't have to wage war.

You can part peacefully.

Mediation can help you do that.

You deserve peace in your life.

You deserve to end your marriage peacefully.

You don't have to wage war.

You can part peacefully.

Mediation can help you do that.

Peace is no small matter. Countries go to war to preserve it.It's no surprise that your divorce feels like a war.You get...
04/29/2021

Peace is no small matter. Countries go to war to preserve it.

It's no surprise that your divorce feels like a war.

You get to decide if you'll drop a nuclear bomb or if you'll end it with a simple signature.

It's probably easier to drop that bomb and destroy your family.

But it's definitely not worth it.

Give mediation a try. If it doesn't work out you can always go to court.

Peace is no small matter. Countries go to war to preserve it.

It's no surprise that your divorce feels like a war.

You get to decide if you'll drop a nuclear bomb or if you'll end it with a simple signature.

It's probably easier to drop that bomb and destroy your family.

But it's definitely not worth it.

Give mediation a try. If it doesn't work out you can always go to court.

When you go to mediation keep these things in mind:1. Have an open mind.2. Know what you want.3. Know what you can live ...
04/27/2021

When you go to mediation keep these things in mind:
1. Have an open mind.
2. Know what you want.
3. Know what you can live without.
4. Know what you must get in order to keep you at the table.
5. Know when to walk away.

When you go to mediation keep these things in mind:
1. Have an open mind.
2. Know what you want.
3. Know what you can live without.
4. Know what you must get in order to keep you at the table.
5. Know when to walk away.

Just breathe and take this divorce one step at a time.Divorce is overwhelming so break it up into baby steps.Then just l...
04/25/2021

Just breathe and take this divorce one step at a time.

Divorce is overwhelming so break it up into baby steps.

Then just like with a baby celebrate each step you take.

Just breathe and take this divorce one step at a time.

Divorce is overwhelming so break it up into baby steps.

Then just like with a baby celebrate each step you take.

When you need help ask for it.No one expects you to settle your divorce on your own.Mediators are here to help you settl...
04/24/2021

When you need help ask for it.

No one expects you to settle your divorce on your own.

Mediators are here to help you settle your differences so you can get on with the best parts of your lives.

When you need help ask for it.

No one expects you to settle your divorce on your own.

Mediators are here to help you settle your differences so you can get on with the best parts of your lives.

One of the very first decisions you need to make after deciding to mediate is deciding which mediator to use.It can be f...
04/23/2021

One of the very first decisions you need to make after deciding to mediate is deciding which mediator to use.

It can be frustrating when you and your soon-to-be-ex can't agree on who to use.

Truth bomb: Mediation is about working together and making decisions jointly. If you can come to agreement on who to use as your mediator then you’ll be able to reach agreements in far more important matters.

One of the very first decisions you need to make after deciding to mediate is deciding which mediator to use.

It can be frustrating when you and your soon-to-be-ex can't agree on who to use.

Truth bomb: Mediation is about working together and making decisions jointly. If you can come to agreement on who to use as your mediator then you’ll be able to reach agreements in far more important matters.

Change isn't good or bad.It's how you respond to it.But no matter how you think about it, change is hard.Human beings ne...
04/22/2021

Change isn't good or bad.

It's how you respond to it.

But no matter how you think about it, change is hard.

Human beings need time to adjust to change.

You didn’t adjust to being married overnight and you won’t adjust to being divorced quickly either.

When you use the court system to dissolve your marriage it makes things difficult for you emotionally because the process is so adversarial.

But you CAN make your transition from married to single a bit more smoothly.

Mediation can help you in your marriage in a healthy and respectful way.

Let’s chat and I can tell you how.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

Change isn't good or bad.

It's how you respond to it.

But no matter how you think about it, change is hard.

Human beings need time to adjust to change.

You didn’t adjust to being married overnight and you won’t adjust to being divorced quickly either.

When you use the court system to dissolve your marriage it makes things difficult for you emotionally because the process is so adversarial.

But you CAN make your transition from married to single a bit more smoothly.

Mediation can help you in your marriage in a healthy and respectful way.

Let’s chat and I can tell you how.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

The average cost for a divorce in California is way too high.For those who hire an attorney the cost is: $17,500 per per...
04/21/2021

The average cost for a divorce in California is way too high.

For those who hire an attorney the cost is:

$17,500 per person for couples without kids

AND

$26,000 per person for couples with kids.

YIKES!

Mediation costs so much less than this.

If you two can’t agree on the terms of your divorce then use mediation for your divorce and save that money for your future.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

The average cost for a divorce in California is way too high.

For those who hire an attorney the cost is:

$17,500 per person for couples without kids

AND

$26,000 per person for couples with kids.

YIKES!

Mediation costs so much less than this.

If you two can’t agree on the terms of your divorce then use mediation for your divorce and save that money for your future.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

1. Know WHAT you want.2. Know WHY you want it.3. Focus on the WHY. Your WHY is the underlying desire and it will drive y...
04/20/2021

1. Know WHAT you want.

2. Know WHY you want it.

3. Focus on the WHY.

Your WHY is the underlying desire and it will drive your negotiations.

Knowing WHY your want something will help you to be more open to creative solutions.

These solutions may not give you WHAT you want but they will address the WHY.

Think about your WHY before you negotiate your divorce.

Divorce negotiations happen at the kitchen table, in your lawyer’s conference room and in mediation. But they don’t happen in court.

Let’s talk about mediation can you settle your divorce.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

1. Know WHAT you want.

2. Know WHY you want it.

3. Focus on the WHY.

Your WHY is the underlying desire and it will drive your negotiations.

Knowing WHY your want something will help you to be more open to creative solutions.

These solutions may not give you WHAT you want but they will address the WHY.

Think about your WHY before you negotiate your divorce.

Divorce negotiations happen at the kitchen table, in your lawyer’s conference room and in mediation. But they don’t happen in court.

Let’s talk about mediation can you settle your divorce.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

04/19/2021
What She Say?

Listening is hard to do when all you want to do is speak. BUT listening will help the other person feel heard and they will be more likely to listen to you.

#divorce #consciousuncoupling #divorcemediation #divorcemediator #coparenting #coparent

The average length of time for a divorce in California might surprise you.From filing to divorce to it being finalized i...
04/18/2021

The average length of time for a divorce in California might surprise you.

From filing to divorce to it being finalized it takes:

15 months for couples without kids

AND

18 months for couples with kids.

That's a long time!

It’s better to take control of your future and mediate so you can beat this average.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

The average length of time for a divorce in California might surprise you.

From filing to divorce to it being finalized it takes:

15 months for couples without kids

AND

18 months for couples with kids.

That's a long time!

It’s better to take control of your future and mediate so you can beat this average.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

The day you can look at and evaluate your own behavior is a great day indeed.You may shed tears of sorrow for the mistak...
04/17/2021

The day you can look at and evaluate your own behavior is a great day indeed.

You may shed tears of sorrow for the mistakes you've made.

You may shed tears of joy for being able to amend your ways.

No matter what, you are now on the path to having healthy relationships in your future.

But first you need to end the marital relationship legally. Mediation can help you with that.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

The day you can look at and evaluate your own behavior is a great day indeed.

You may shed tears of sorrow for the mistakes you've made.

You may shed tears of joy for being able to amend your ways.

No matter what, you are now on the path to having healthy relationships in your future.

But first you need to end the marital relationship legally. Mediation can help you with that.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

You may think images like this are over the top. But this really does happen.I witnessed a scene like this when I was a ...
04/15/2021

You may think images like this are over the top.

But this really does happen.

I witnessed a scene like this when I was a child.

It was my friend's birthday party. Her parents had been drinking heavily.

They began to argue. Loudly.

Before I knew it they both raced to their daughter and tugged on her arms.

She was forcefully pulled back and forth between them.

I still remember the look on her face and the tears of anguish she shed.

She was heartbroken. Her parents were fighting over her on her birthday.

Even as a child witnessing this I knew her parents were acting crazy and that my friend's life would never be the same.

Please don't do this to your children.

I understand the desire to not be away from them but this isn’t good for anyone.

Your children will experience more of this if you go to court and fight over them.

Your kids will experience less of this if you and your spouse work together to do what’s best for them.

I can help you create a parenting plan that keeps your kids’ best interest in mind.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

You may think images like this are over the top.

But this really does happen.

I witnessed a scene like this when I was a child.

It was my friend's birthday party. Her parents had been drinking heavily.

They began to argue. Loudly.

Before I knew it they both raced to their daughter and tugged on her arms.

She was forcefully pulled back and forth between them.

I still remember the look on her face and the tears of anguish she shed.

She was heartbroken. Her parents were fighting over her on her birthday.

Even as a child witnessing this I knew her parents were acting crazy and that my friend's life would never be the same.

Please don't do this to your children.

I understand the desire to not be away from them but this isn’t good for anyone.

Your children will experience more of this if you go to court and fight over them.

Your kids will experience less of this if you and your spouse work together to do what’s best for them.

I can help you create a parenting plan that keeps your kids’ best interest in mind.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

If you know that you need a divorce then don't wait.Once you know, you know.It takes a minimum of 6 months to get a divo...
04/14/2021

If you know that you need a divorce then don't wait.

Once you know, you know.

It takes a minimum of 6 months to get a divorce in California. BUT the timer doesn't start until your spouse is served. So file for divorce and get them served ASAP.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

If you know that you need a divorce then don't wait.

Once you know, you know.

It takes a minimum of 6 months to get a divorce in California. BUT the timer doesn't start until your spouse is served. So file for divorce and get them served ASAP.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

How long should you mourn the end of your marriage?As long as it takes.But don’t take too long to get your divorce start...
04/13/2021

How long should you mourn the end of your marriage?

As long as it takes.

But don’t take too long to get your divorce started. Closure helps the grieving process. Mediation can help you get closure in a more gentle way than in court.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

How long should you mourn the end of your marriage?

As long as it takes.

But don’t take too long to get your divorce started. Closure helps the grieving process. Mediation can help you get closure in a more gentle way than in court.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

When you go to divorce mediation you’re welcome to bring an attorney if you have one. But if you don’t have an attorney ...
04/11/2021

When you go to divorce mediation you’re welcome to bring an attorney if you have one. But if you don’t have an attorney you can still go to divorce mediation.

Since a mediator is not your advocate it's a good idea to consult an attorney before you sign the final mediated agreement.

Btw here’s a little secret: If you’re concerned about money or don’t have a lot of it to go around, it’s far cheaper to consult with an attorney than to have one on retainer.

When you go to divorce mediation you’re welcome to bring an attorney if you have one. But if you don’t have an attorney you can still go to divorce mediation.

Since a mediator is not your advocate it's a good idea to consult an attorney before you sign the final mediated agreement.

Btw here’s a little secret: If you’re concerned about money or don’t have a lot of it to go around, it’s far cheaper to consult with an attorney than to have one on retainer.

In California it costs $435 to file for divorce. If you file first you are called the petitioner. When your spouse is se...
04/10/2021

In California it costs $435 to file for divorce. If you file first you are called the petitioner.

When your spouse is served they have 30 days to respond. It also costs them $435 to respond to the divorce. They are called the respondent.

It doesn’t matter if you are the petitioner or the respondent, you don’t get what you don’t ask for. For example, if you don’t mark that you want spousal support there’s a 100% chance you won’t get any.

Moral of the story: leave your options open

In California it costs $435 to file for divorce. If you file first you are called the petitioner.

When your spouse is served they have 30 days to respond. It also costs them $435 to respond to the divorce. They are called the respondent.

It doesn’t matter if you are the petitioner or the respondent, you don’t get what you don’t ask for. For example, if you don’t mark that you want spousal support there’s a 100% chance you won’t get any.

Moral of the story: leave your options open

I watched the pilot of Rebel last night and really enjoyed it.Spoiler Alert: At the end of the episode the lead actress ...
04/09/2021

I watched the pilot of Rebel last night and really enjoyed it.

Spoiler Alert: At the end of the episode the lead actress yells that under California law if you’re married for 10 years you get alimony for life.

Umm...that’s Hollywood folks.

That just ain’t true.

It doesn’t mean it can’t happen.

It means it’s not an automatic guarantee.

I watched the pilot of Rebel last night and really enjoyed it.

Spoiler Alert: At the end of the episode the lead actress yells that under California law if you’re married for 10 years you get alimony for life.

Umm...that’s Hollywood folks.

That just ain’t true.

It doesn’t mean it can’t happen.

It means it’s not an automatic guarantee.

In California there’s a 6 month cooling off period after you file for divorce.The process is intentionally slow.Use your...
04/08/2021

In California there’s a 6 month cooling off period after you file for divorce.

The process is intentionally slow.

Use your time wisely so as not to drag things out any longer than they need to be.

** The 6 months doesn't start until your spouse is served!

Mediation is a good way to get your divorce done in the shortest amount of time.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

In California there’s a 6 month cooling off period after you file for divorce.

The process is intentionally slow.

Use your time wisely so as not to drag things out any longer than they need to be.

** The 6 months doesn't start until your spouse is served!

Mediation is a good way to get your divorce done in the shortest amount of time.

https://calendly.com/brownieculture/free-consultation

Being away from your children is hard at first.I used to watch Nick Jr. when my son was away just to feel close to him.D...
04/06/2021

Being away from your children is hard at first.

I used to watch Nick Jr. when my son was away just to feel close to him.

Don't be afraid to do embarrassing things like that when you miss your kids. No one is looking anyway.

Do what you must in order to hurt less . . . even if that means watching Peppa Pig.

Being away from your children is hard at first.

I used to watch Nick Jr. when my son was away just to feel close to him.

Don't be afraid to do embarrassing things like that when you miss your kids. No one is looking anyway.

Do what you must in order to hurt less . . . even if that means watching Peppa Pig.

04/05/2021
Do you regret getting married?

It's normal to regret things but it's not always productive.

#divorce #consciousuncoupling #divorcemediation #divorcemediator #coparenting #coparent

04/04/2021
Even if you don't love yourself very much your body and soul have taken care of you from the beginning. They have stood ...
04/03/2021

Even if you don't love yourself very much your body and soul have taken care of you from the beginning. They have stood with you and stood strong.

Be gentle and give yourself some love and credit for all you've been through. You are strong!

Even if you don't love yourself very much your body and soul have taken care of you from the beginning. They have stood with you and stood strong.

Be gentle and give yourself some love and credit for all you've been through. You are strong!

Forgiveness is a deeply personal topic and it can't be rushed.When you're ready, explore forgiveness. It might just save...
04/02/2021

Forgiveness is a deeply personal topic and it can't be rushed.

When you're ready, explore forgiveness. It might just save you.

Forgiveness is a deeply personal topic and it can't be rushed.

When you're ready, explore forgiveness. It might just save you.

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