Lisa Silvera Coaching

07/22/2026

The New York Times did a piece on 8 books that could change how you see divorce and is it an exceptional resource I am thrilled to share. One recommendation that stood out to me was Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s 'Loving Bravely". The book explores “relational self-awareness, or the ability to recognize the patterns, expectations, and emotional reactions we bring into our relationships." Worth your time and attention, and this list will be really helpful in exploring patterns and behaviors we bring to our relationship. GOOD STUFF! Let me know which one resonates the most with you and why.

“Awareness isn’t about blaming yourself. It’s about becoming curious.”

07/22/2026

Our pets are an integral, cherished part of the family. The future in a divorce is deserved of deep thought and decision-making that considers and prioritizes their health, safety, and security - as much as each of the members of the [human] family unit. This blog offers some thoughtful, actionable tools to decide what works for the family AND the furs. Please read and comment. Your thoughts and suggestions are welcomed!

When couples start the divorce process, the conversation usually focuses on the house, the savings, and the children. But as a divorce and conflict coach, I frequently see negotiations come to a screeching halt over a completely different family member: the pet(s). For many of us, our pets are our

07/22/2026

Co-parenting vs. parallel parenting there is a distinct difference. Neither is the "wrong" or "right" way, but rather what is best for your family dynamic and most importantly, the children. Give it a read and I encourage you to share your thoughts and any advice or challenges you may be facing in the comments.

When a marriage ends, there is intense pressure on both parents to "co-parent successfully." Society tells us that good divorced parents attend school events together, communicate openly about bedtimes, and happily text each other photos of the kids. But as a divorce and conflict coach, I

07/22/2026

Ok, the decision has been made, divorce is the healthiest decision for you and/or your family. Now, how do you tell the children? I'd love to hear your perspective or account of how you envision handling or recommend handling this delicate situation in the comments.

As a divorce and conflict coach, the question I hear most often is also the one that causes the most sleepless nights: "How do we tell the kids?" There is no perfect way to have this conversation, and waiting for the "right time" usually just prolongs the anxiety. The goal isn'

07/20/2026

IN THE DIVORCE PROCESS, WHO DOES WHAT? See the first comment for the skinny.

12/01/2025

A read worthy of your time and contemplation. Requires honesty. Are you ready to really be honest with yourself or your partner? If not skip this one.

Rather than deal with the inconveniences of divorce, more and more women over 40 are choosing to just check out.

09/30/2025

A Mother’s love or straight up meddling? I would love to hear your thoughts or answer questions.

Our Ask the Therapist columnist, Lori Gottlieb, advises a reader who worries that her grandchildren are being harmed by their parents’ messy relationship.

04/18/2025

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04/02/2025

📌 BLOG ALERT: Your Strength Is In Your Breath, NOT Your Muscles!

03/11/2025

This is a terrific piece. Please take time to listen and appreciate the perspective of this The New York Times Contributor,

It took a superstar couples therapist to help me see beyond my anger.