09/06/2026
Why is ‘Abuse of a Pastor’s Wife’ ranked #1 on Netflix? So many have connected and identify with it.
But why?
⛪️Abuse in the church is real.
It happens across every institution, and we cannot be naive enough to believe the church is exempt.
Spiritual abuse, however, carries a unique weight. When you are taught from childhood to trust leaders with your eternal soul, scripture and concepts like submission can easily be weaponized—both spiritually 📖, sexually, emotionally, physically and financially 🏦.
I was told, “Just trust God, He will provide,” while money was being spent far beyond our means. It didn’t make logical sense, but that’s the nature of spiritual manipulation: twisted logic that leaves you feeling “unGodly” or fearful for your salvation if you question it. This is just one example of my experience.
To those sitting at the FRONT of the church or standing on the stage who refuse to listen👂
1️⃣God does not love the institution of the church more than He loves the individuals inside it.
2️⃣God does not love the institution of marriage more than He loves the person being harmed within it.
If you are experiencing abuse and do not feel safe, know this:
💓God loves you, values your safety, and wants you to live a full, peaceful life. God is love and cherishes you, more than your marriage.
Spiritual leaders use manipulation even more than power—so please do me a favour and lean into your God-given instincts. If it feels off or wrong, it probably is.
I am here to listen and believe you. Connect with those who understand. Your life is worth it 🤍